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The Garden of Good and Evil

27 Thursday Aug 2009

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Soul Care

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Oklahoma Gardening, Soul Care

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GAILLARDIA IN BLOOM - Sundance Bicolor

The sowing of seed satisfies my deep need to participate  in the quotidian mystery of life.   As I  scratch the surface of soil and scatter my few precious seeds I’m practicing the ancient art of propagating beauty in the canvas of soil.  One moment seed.  Days later, with the nurture of earth and sun and water, something green reaches for light from the dark recesses of the earth.  Where else but the garden can one so easily witness an everyday miracle of God?   

The snake in paradise is that I forget which seeds I’ve sown.  The old adage — out of sight, out of mind — describes my gardening practice to a tee.  Some tender green shoot springs up from the garden’s surface.  And for the life of me or it, I can’t identify it.    Weed or flower?  No snap judgments will do, as life hangs in the balance.  

The discernment process is never easy.  I wait leaf by leaf for answers to be revealed.  When will it unfurl its true leaves and colors to offer me a hint?  Too often impatience causes me pull out what I judged as weed to learn later it was flower.  My hasty hand has executed more poppies than I care to count and just last week, one of my new tender Gaillarida flowers pregnant with bloom.  To an unfamiliar eye, flower foilage can look an awful lot like weed. 

Gardening teaches me that answers are rarely black and white.  Flower or weed.  Good or evil.  Even the good book teaches that God makes his sun rise on the evil and the good and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.  One gardener’s flower can be another gardener’s weed.  Red and yellow black and white, they are precious in his sight.  

Travel Light

20 Thursday Aug 2009

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Soul Care

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Aging, Death, Everyday Life, Parents, Soul Care, Travel

My husband is the consummate traveler through life.  He rents his books, buys only the clothing he needs, and rarely makes spur-of-the-moment purchases.  He’s no different when it comes to real traveling; he travels light, packing only the bare bone essentials into a carry-on bag if possible.  

Being his complete opposite, I live a more settled existence, surrounded by a lovely home chock-full of stuff, most of which needs to be washed or dusted.  It’s far too easy for me to accumlate stuff and one look into my library reveals my most glaring weakness for books.  And when it comes to closets, I figure I’m not the only gal in this world to have stored three sizes of clothes for almost ten years in the hope I might one day wear that smallest size again.  Moving to Oklahoma became my day of reckoning, as I came to terms with the likely reality that I will never again wear a size six;  and moving to a historic home with very small closets made those size sixes much easier to part with. 

But my nest is feathered light compared to my mother’s.  Mom always was a pack rat, though once she and Dad settled into retirement, Mom became even more earnest about the business of accumulation.  At the time of Mom’s death, she left the equivalent of two double car garages and one house stuffed to the gills.  And with Daddy’s failing health, I fear my sister and I will soon be forced to reckon with our scary inheritance.  

Sitting with my frail father has instructed me on the art of traveling light as Daddy inches closer to death.  These days, Daddy is not interested in the daily happenings of the world, as reported by the local newspapers.  Nor is Daddy imersed in life as depicted by his once favored television shows.  As Daddy skinnys down his life to the bare bones, Daddy has even discarded a few people that once held importance.  I happen to be one of them.  And while it hurts to unintentionally fall between the cracks of Daddy’s short attention span, I understand that in some godawfulway (yes, one word, said real fast), Daddy is not really Daddy anymore.

More often than not, Dad’s spirit travels as light as a feather to only God knows where.  Our visits of late remind me a lot of my final visits to my mother’s ICU bedside.  And though Dad is not in a coma, Dad is still unaccessible.  At best our visits are a  series of one-side conversations punctuated by golden silence.   Yet at times something mysterious will grab Dad’s attention and Daddy will point his finger to a spot somewhere over my shoulder.  I turn around to nothing, but sense that Daddy is seeing something that only Daddy can see.  Perhaps some spirit from the invisible world has come to help Daddy learn what it really means to travel light? 

Too soon.  Daddy will be traveling toward the light.

The Back Door’s Open

06 Thursday Aug 2009

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Life at Home, Mesta Park, Soul Care, The Great Outdoors

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Back door guests, Everyday Life, Mesta Park, Oklahoma Gardening, Soul Care, Writing

This morning’s rain descended without warning, slipping in under our radar and through the back door.  Yet, my unexpected guest was most welcomed; in spite of the early wake up call she left tapping against my window pane.DSC01645a        

I was glad for a morning to be lazy, to have no where I needed to be.  Tucked into my favorite chair with a fresh cup of coffee, I enjoyed that  rare pleasure of hosting a beloved drop-in guest.  But it made me wonder:  Does anyone these days experience the joy of surprise visits from friends or family?

Here in Mesta Park, my only unexpected callers are the occasional Girl Scout with cookies and the  more faithful Jehovah’s Witness who canvas our tree-lined neighborhood in hope of finding a few lost souls;  both seem content to receive my meager crumbs of hospitality from the welcome mat that rests just beyond the front door.  

I can’t recall when I last received a surprise visit from a good friend or family member.  Even my four children don’t just drop in as the school of hard-knocks has taught them to call before they knock.  Instead, they “let their fingers do the walking” with their cell phone compass  in hand.   “Where are you?”, they ask.  And before I respond, I immediately think, “Where’s Waldo?”  These days, Waldo’s often in Seminole visiting Daddy, or at the County Extension office playing plant detective or since June, practicing the art of spiritual direction wherever the Spirit leads me. In other words, I’ve taken my homebody-ness on the road for some good old-fashioned visits.  DSC01662a       

The heart of a visit is listening.  And to listen well, I create space by temporarily putting my own life on the back burner.   But no matter where I am physically, I strive to be at  home in spirit by being true to who I am.   I’m less of a front-door guest and more like those back-door guests that so often called upon my granny.  These special people never put on airs but simply made themselves at home, often rolling up their sleeves to work along side their host to help with simple meal preparation or find their own source of refreshment.   

This morning’s rain was a perfect example of a wonderful back door guest.  As if my burden were her own, the rain settled in and deep watered every square inch of my gardens, leaving behind the fresh scent of heavenly rain water.  Meanwhile, sitting in my comfy chair, I deep listened to the sounds of raindrops working.  And just like the garden, my spirit was nourished, cleansed by the rain’s soothing sounds, a rhythm of soft humming piddles and pings.    

DSC01632aMy own grandmother really knew how to welcome a back door guest.  No appointments were necessary; No knock was required.  The guest just shouted out a greeting before letting themselves in.  Granny always made everyone feel welcomed, as if they were her most important of priorities.  And while there, they were.  Whatever she had been doing — watching a little television or working a crossword puzzle–were simply put aside in favor of a nice cozy chat.    

These memories of my granny stir up my own desire to become something like her.  On some rainy day in the future.  When all I want to do is stay home.  And then I pray:  Let the guests descend!   Without advance warning.  Even a few raindrops will do.  As long as they remember to enter in through the back door like today’s unexpected guest.   

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