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Waiting with Mary

29 Thursday Oct 2009

Posted by Janell in Soul Care

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Everyday Life, Mary and Jesus, Soul Care, Waiting, Writing

A Place to Wait with Words

A Place to Wait with Words

Yesterday’s post proved cathartic.  I am now sitting at my cluttered writing desk.  And with fingers on keyboard, I ponder life  two thousand years ago, in the village of Nazareth, and wonder about the young Mary’s everyday life — before it was all shaken and stirred by that scary angel who dropped in without calling.

Mary is the one to ponder and treasure words in her heart.  St. Luke says this all the time about Mary in the gospel he wrote about Mary’s first-born son.  And like anyone the least bit connected with Jesus, and as mothers everywhere tend to be with any of their children at one time or another, Mary not only pondered, but she would come to wonder how the world was treating her child.

Like Mary, I tend to ponder and wonder at life.  I treasure words, like those written in The Luminous Word — a small Advent booklet that arrived in last week’s mail — where author Jan L. Richardson sees a different Mary than I, on that famous occasion where she entertained her unexpected angel.  Ms. Richardson writes: 

“She is reading when the angel appears.  Or so the medieval artists told it; in so many of the paintings of the Middle Ages, Mary holds a book as Gabriel greets her.  She is reading from the Hebrew Scriptures, sometimes, or, in a lovely turn of anachronism, from a Book of Hours.  This is a woman, the artists suggest, who is steeped in words.  Long before choosing to bear the Word, before agreeing to become the mother of God, Mary had been immersing herself in the ancient texts, letting the prayers and stories that had spiraled through the generations unwind in her.”

The author’s words paint a lovely vision.  But it doesn’t quite mesh with the picture I carry around of the young Mary’s life.   Like most Jewish girls of the time, Mary probably could not read; instead, I think Mary’s education would have been more practical, centered around the tasks of everyday life  —  making meals, tending and mending laundry, and keeping house.  It was neither glamorous nor romantic.

This was Mary’s lot and I don’t imagine she had time to sit and contemplate the deeper mysteries of life.  Until, that is, when mystery invaded her life, making the act of contemplation no longer an idle luxury.

Mary carried mystery in her womb, nurtured him at her breast and watched over  him until he was grown, when she did what all good mothers past and present are called to do:  She let her child go, to live his own life, however he saw fit.  

Then, out of sight, but never out of mind or heart, Mary waited.  She waited to hear a word from Jesus, while she went about her everyday tasks and waited on her children still at home.  The waiting was hard.  I imagine Mary’s waiting was far worse than waiting in the Wal-Mart checkout line. 

There is Love

28 Wednesday Oct 2009

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Prayer, Soul Care

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Everyday God, Everyday Life, Paul Stookey, Prayer, Soul Care, Wedding Song, Writing

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There is Love.... Glen & Kate

I promised myself that this morning, I’d begin writing November’s session of Everyday God, my once weekly (that has evolved into my once-a-month trickle)    contemplative prayer class.

The idea for Everyday God grew out of last year’s personal Ignatius retreat — and this year’s practicum need for spiritual directees.

Not too surprising, the class has brought no directees.  And instead, I sometimes feel like I’ve gotten into a little more than I bargained for, just like those Desert Fathers and Mothers who went out into the desert in the fourth century to find God and found instead they had a following of pilgrims clamoring for spiritual guidance on their own terms.

I am a poor twenty-first century  imitation of a desert mama.  Instead of writing for Everyday God, I’m again lost in the quiet world of blogging space.  And happily lost, mind you, with no desire to leave. 

The word ‘resistance’ comes to mind.  Maybe because the topic of resistance has been our latest curriculum stop for wandering, on my three-year journey toward receiving certification as a spiritual director.  It’s no small consolation to learn that my meandering ways are pretty normal, just the opposite of what one might expect, of someone who experiences their greatest writing thrills of dare-I-say ‘victory’ when in the company of angels.

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There is Love.... Kara & Joe

When I write on heavenly matter, words just flow, even when heavy and pregnant with eternity.  But rather than going to THAT scary place where I feel so lost and out of control, I choose what I tell myself is the safer sphere of blog and paper journals:  a place where I  choose my topics, a make-believe place where I  know WHAT I want to say and WHERE the steam of writing is going; though even here, within the reality of this web log, my writing often takes on a mind of its own, taking me places where I had no intent to travel.

I have a love affair with the written word.  Books, good writing —  wherever it shows up — is hard for me to resist.

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There is Love.... Kyle

Though this morning, far away from my time-hog-blog, I began to think that my love affair should instead be with the Incarnate Word.  And in some strange human way, it is.  This Incarnate Word is in my everyday life, much like a taken-for-granted-but-still-much-loved husband, who too often ends up receiving leftovers, playing second fiddle to the first violin writing spot of my life known as Bestamesta.com.  God.  That was not easy to write.

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There is Love.... Amy & Bryan

Am I just rationalizing when I confess, that whenever or whatever I write, or wherever I read good writing, that the Incarnate Word is in that too, where I experience or find there is love?

As I pondered this thought, I began hearing that haunting much over-used wedding tune of the Seventies, written by Paul Stookey for the wedding of his good friend Peter Yarrow —   two of the three-part harmony of Peter, Paul & Mary.  I took time to reacquaint myself with the song’s words.  And before I had even reached the lyrics ending, I knew these words, even unvarnished by the gloss of music, incarnated the Word who is Love, especially when my second fiddle Incarnate Word was seen in the role of husband.  The third stanza of The Wedding Song reads:

“Well then what’s to be the reason
for becoming man and wife?
Is it love that brings you here
or love that brings you life?
And if loving is the answer,
then who’s the giving for?
Do you believe in something
that you’ve never seen before?
Oh there is Love, there is Love.”

Paul Stookey created the Wedding Song then gave it away to Public Domain Foundation for the good of the public.  Thirty years later, the royalties from this one song have raised $1.5 million in charitable gifts.  In Stookey’s own words:

“Into every songwriter’s life comes a song, the source of which cannot be explained by personal experience.” 

Perhaps it’s time to stop resisting.

Simple Hospitality

24 Saturday Oct 2009

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Mesta Park, Soul Care

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Everyday Life, Life Cereal, Life Lessons, Mesta Park, OKC Dining Out, Soul Care

Last night we completed our first season of Moveable Feasts, where once a month, we take time to convene family around a dinner table.  As the name suggests, this family feast is on the move; it has places to go and food to taste with our only constant being the group of familiar faces gathered together.  

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February at Mesta Park: Maddie shines as "Hostess with the Mostess"

Each month the host changes — each of our children and their mates, plus my husband, his mother and I take turns playing host.  This adds up to ten months of moveable feasts, with two months off in November and December, when the holidays naturally bring us together.  This year we’ve eaten our way through one brunch, two lunches and seven suppers, involving two home-cooked meals and dining out at seven restaurants across the Oklahoma City area and one old saloon in Okarche.  It was a strange stew of Italian, Indian, Cajun, Brazilian, Chinese and mouth-watering Southern fried chicken.  

It was my idea to do this, my way of  bridging the widening gap between my best dreams — having all my chicks home every Saturday night in my Mesta Park nest — and my worst nightmares — never seeing the faces of my flown-the-coop children again.  But unexpectedly, what began as a gap closing measure may have turned out to be better than my best dreams.  Because no longer am I slaving away in the kitchen to feed eleven to fifteen hungry appetites.  No longer am I in charge of aligning the moon and the stars in hopes of gathering six family units together at the same time and place.  And best of all — no longer am I in charge of resolving that age-old question:  What should I fix for dinner?

And guess what?  Just like that old Life cereal commercial that sprang out of the 1960’s, which featured little Mikey and his skeptical-of-Life big brothers — just like Mikey who faithfully tried and liked his bite of Life  —  my family tried the Moveable Feast and… they liked it.  They liked it so much that they are ready to do it all over again.  It may take us different places perhaps, but always with the same faces — and the possiblity of one more if my son Kyle is so moved.

This year’s final act was to write down ten months on a napkin, tear them into pieces and take turns drawing.  And so goes life and the lessons it brings, even if it’s just relearning the same old lessons; home-spun goodies like the simpler the bettter and hospitality begins at home.

But being the contemplative that I am, I ponder now on what personal lesson I gained from this spiritiual exercise of letting go.  Ultimately, of course, it’s a who-but-God-knows.  But for now, perhaps it’s this simple:  When I relax my grip to release my best dream, I open my hand to receive the best that real life has to offer.  One bite at a time.

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