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A Garden Legacy

26 Sunday Jun 2011

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Life at Home, Soul Care, The Great Outdoors, Writing

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Aging, Everyday Life, Oklahoma Gardening, Soul Care, Writing

Truth be told, acquiring a garden in need —  on a lot twice our slice of Mesta Park  — was part of the charm of this new place we’re calling home.

Too bad I failed to recall how gardening in unamended red dirt is like childbirth; the pain of bringing forth new life in Mesta Park — of amending red clay with compost and peat moss to a twelve-inch depth were memories I forgot too soon, covered up as they were, by three years of keeping company with jaunty faces of thriving plants.

But these gardens do offer consolation — especially with all the hard-scape left behind.  Our large stone patio —  a perfect perch to watch the morning sun rise above the trees — along with ground-level curbing that outlines the perimeter of our backyard fence gardens will someday, when time and weather become more spacious and inviting, become lovely bones to build new gardens around.

Most mornings I’m out back  — in an effort to restore order — before the heat comes.  Working my way around the gardens counterclockwise, I began with the east garden, though I’ve spent more time on the north, where lined up like soldiers, are twelve troops of Crape Myrtles that two weeks ago, were a mass of tangled branches, dead and alive, surrounded by waist-high weeds.  Parasitic vines covered two.  With neither strength nor tools to do more than scratch the surface of the soil around them — three inches is deep in these conditions  — I’ve removed most weeds and vines and reformed the shrubs into the shape of their species.

While my garden legacy is a byproduct of neglect and drought, made worse by a home unoccupied many months, every garden holds hidden joys waiting for notice.  The week before we moved in I noticed my first in a small stand of Hollyhocks blooming on the east side of our property, growing appropriately along an old chain-link fence.  I saw them when beginning to weed out space for the few transplants I brought with me from Mesta Park.

Every morning I watered the Hollyhocks, alongside thirsty transplants —  a few sprigs of Blue-Black Salvia and Russian Sage and a small crop of inch-high Cleome — that rewarded my care, by shriveling up and laying their heads on hot cracked soil.  Had it not been for the Hollyhocks, blooming their long necks off, I may have given up on those transplants, for I felt a mite foolish watering plants which looked dead to the eye.  But underneath there was life and all but a few have survived.  Looking back, I now see the transplants  had only let go of their surface looks to focus energy on rebuilding hidden roots, to regain their balance in soil different than they were accustom.

As I watered, I wondered who to thank for my favorite of all cottage flowers.  I began with my new neighbor — the one who putters around in his own garden with such daily discipline — but he quickly told me the Hollyhocks that we both enjoy came from Marguerite, who lived in the next house east to him.  In her nineties, Marguerite  was one of the few original homeowners left in the neighborhood; when I expressed interest in writing her a note of thanks, my neighbor shared she was under around-the-clock care of others, hinting she was likely in a place beyond reach of any words I might care to write.

Yet the thought of thanking Marguerite did not go away.  I thought of her again as I watered the Hollyhocks a few days ago, which now are mostly spent; though in their place are a few feathery seedlings that have sprung up which surely must be Cosmos.  If so, could these too  have come from Marguerite’s, since Cosmos are so often companions to Hollyhocks.  How many years had these seeds laid beneath the surface, waiting for conditions to ripen?

The question was enough to move me to my computer, to look up the spelling of Marguerite’s name on local property tax records.  One research led to another, and possibly to another, before I uncovered Marguerite’s recent obituary.  She had died late February without our mutual neighbor’s notice.  The news stunned me.  It made me sad —  on more than one level.  But as I began to get my roots about me, I saw how Marguerite, at least to my way of thinking, was not beyond words of gratitude at all; that I can remember Marguerite with a grateful heart, anytime I water my east garden.  And maybe even here, with these few words I’m scattering in digital space.

It’s enough, these words of mine.  I’ll spread no other about Marguerite’s passing, across the fence or anywhere else; surely the neighbors will find out when the time is ripe.

After the Storm

11 Saturday Jun 2011

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Life at Home, Mesta Park, Writing

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Everyday Life, Mesta Park, Oklahoma Gardening, Relocation, Writing

I woke this morning in a new home just twenty or so blocks up and down urban hills from Mesta Park.

The skies, even the air, are clearer today, a parting gift from yesterday and last night’s thunderstorms, in spite of their brevity.  And though not as short, so it is with my latest life storm on everyday life;  from the time we signed the contract on this fifties Ranch-style home almost four  months ago to yesterday, when we signed away the deed on our Mesta Park beauty, I have watched and helped tear apart one life to begin anew.  I watched dust stir to fly like small tumbleweeds to settle snug again, more than I ever thought possible; I am finding knick-knacks and furniture that once fit so beautifully there appear awkward and out-of-place here in their new more modern digs; and the gardens there, so beautiful yesterday as I pulled weeds and worked the soil one last time seemed to mock me and my decision to part company.  They need not have bothered, for the gardens here, this strange mish-mash without form or unity, underline and highlight so well what I chose to leave behind.

And here am I, settling into this little computer niche in a hallway, without a lovely old wood window to look out of, once again picking out thoughts to leave behind in my blog as a string of words.  I confess it all feels surreal.  Part of me says, “oh, what have I done?” while the other says, “thank God for houses with no stairs.”

Wintertime Berries

04 Tuesday Jan 2011

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Life at Home, The Great Outdoors, Writing

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Entertaining, Everyday Life, Oklahoma Gardening, Parents, Writing

The berries have been there for months.  First hidden behind a flush of summer green, they began small green and hard.  But with leaves now gone, my Possumhaw Holly stands alone in silent splendor, within a winter garden gone dormant and brown.

With a male holly near by to play his role in creation, only females set fruit.  The birds love her bright red berries as much as me.  While I enjoy the mere sight of her from my kitchen window, I especially like to bring a few cuttings indoors.  The trimming improves her form while the trimmings form effortlessly into a nice table centerpiece —  like the one I put together Sunday with sprigs of French Lavender, in honor of my mother-in-law’s birthday supper.

The post could stop here but for that word, “mother-in-law,” which carries with it such common connotations.  Most are unflattering; and they hurt and belittle with a big bite.  I wish to remove its tarnish and soften the sharp edges with my own small words.  But try as I write, words evade.  I search for phrases and images to honor, to tell of the many ways my mother-in-law has enriched my life.  And I come up empty.

So I begin with a confession:  Janice and I have come a long way, since the first time we met thirty-eight years ago; because I’m positive she didn’t like me.  Or if not me in particular, then at least the general idea of her son dating anyone exclusively.  At seventeen, he was too young to narrow the field.  And when considering her son’s girlfriend as a prospective daughter-in-law, perhaps Janice felt her son could do better.  Having greater appreciation for her wisdom these days, I’m inclined to agree — though I’m very glad that son of hers  believes otherwise.  And she as well —  now that we know each other better.

Janice is infinitely interesting.  Unlike me, she can comfortably converse with anyone anywhere.  She is well-read and borrows many books each week from her local library.  She especially enjoys a good mystery.  She’s a fine cook, though she cooks less these days — nine years of living with cancer and chemotherapy cocktails takes its toll — though she lives everyday grateful.

Her grandmother raised Janice because her mother wasn’t up to the task.  As a new widow with two toddlers at home, having lost her husband in a tragic train accident, Janice’s mother knew her  limits.  So Janice grew up calling her grandmother “Mother,”  and her mother she called “Mammy”, same as all her mother’s grandchildren.

Janice married young.  Ironically, at sixteen.  But thanks to her Mother, she married for love.  Because her Mother wanted for Janice what she herself had been denied, when forced to marry a man she did not love.

When time drew near for delivery of my oldest son, Janice put aside her fear of flying and came to Texas to help out.   But it’s not the help I’m remembering today but all our good visits.  During one lovely afternoon chat, in my final days of that third pregnancy, Janice fondly recounted how she had “a thing” for a man in uniform when young.  I suppose her future husband looked fine in his crisp Marine khakis, walking down the streets of the small town where Janice lived.  It wasn’t long before they married.  Then not much longer before Janice and a new daughter were on their way to France.  And a year or so later and a very long way from home, with no family nearby save for her young husband, Janice gave birth to her second child: My husband.

To this day, Janice cannot resist the hard crusty french bread she came to love as a young French housewife.   Enough so, that I created her birthday menu around loaves of  hard crusty bread, ensuring I acquired the finest Oklahoma City offers.  With them, I served a side of my best spaghetti and meatballs.  And a fresh tossed salad and home-made vinaigrette and croutons — made  with french bread, of course.  And because I make pies and cobblers better than cakes, Janice had birthday candles planted into a big dish of apple cobbler.

But as I look back on Sunday night’s supper table, it’s not the food or the beloved people seated there which grab at my attention but that lovely mix of winter flora:  Those silvery sprigs of French Lavender which I have adored for so long — whose scent fills my home and my soap dispensers and lingers above my pillow at night — reminds me of Janice and the gift of a French-born husband whose love we share; and those spacious berries remind me of Janice too, since she always has space and time to visit.

These wintertime berries invite me to make my own space — for visits with those I love —  with time ripe for picking.

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