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The Back Door’s Open

06 Thursday Aug 2009

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Life at Home, Mesta Park, Soul Care, The Great Outdoors

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Back door guests, Everyday Life, Mesta Park, Oklahoma Gardening, Soul Care, Writing

This morning’s rain descended without warning, slipping in under our radar and through the back door.  Yet, my unexpected guest was most welcomed; in spite of the early wake up call she left tapping against my window pane.DSC01645a        

I was glad for a morning to be lazy, to have no where I needed to be.  Tucked into my favorite chair with a fresh cup of coffee, I enjoyed that  rare pleasure of hosting a beloved drop-in guest.  But it made me wonder:  Does anyone these days experience the joy of surprise visits from friends or family?

Here in Mesta Park, my only unexpected callers are the occasional Girl Scout with cookies and the  more faithful Jehovah’s Witness who canvas our tree-lined neighborhood in hope of finding a few lost souls;  both seem content to receive my meager crumbs of hospitality from the welcome mat that rests just beyond the front door.  

I can’t recall when I last received a surprise visit from a good friend or family member.  Even my four children don’t just drop in as the school of hard-knocks has taught them to call before they knock.  Instead, they “let their fingers do the walking” with their cell phone compass  in hand.   “Where are you?”, they ask.  And before I respond, I immediately think, “Where’s Waldo?”  These days, Waldo’s often in Seminole visiting Daddy, or at the County Extension office playing plant detective or since June, practicing the art of spiritual direction wherever the Spirit leads me. In other words, I’ve taken my homebody-ness on the road for some good old-fashioned visits.  DSC01662a       

The heart of a visit is listening.  And to listen well, I create space by temporarily putting my own life on the back burner.   But no matter where I am physically, I strive to be at  home in spirit by being true to who I am.   I’m less of a front-door guest and more like those back-door guests that so often called upon my granny.  These special people never put on airs but simply made themselves at home, often rolling up their sleeves to work along side their host to help with simple meal preparation or find their own source of refreshment.   

This morning’s rain was a perfect example of a wonderful back door guest.  As if my burden were her own, the rain settled in and deep watered every square inch of my gardens, leaving behind the fresh scent of heavenly rain water.  Meanwhile, sitting in my comfy chair, I deep listened to the sounds of raindrops working.  And just like the garden, my spirit was nourished, cleansed by the rain’s soothing sounds, a rhythm of soft humming piddles and pings.    

DSC01632aMy own grandmother really knew how to welcome a back door guest.  No appointments were necessary; No knock was required.  The guest just shouted out a greeting before letting themselves in.  Granny always made everyone feel welcomed, as if they were her most important of priorities.  And while there, they were.  Whatever she had been doing — watching a little television or working a crossword puzzle–were simply put aside in favor of a nice cozy chat.    

These memories of my granny stir up my own desire to become something like her.  On some rainy day in the future.  When all I want to do is stay home.  And then I pray:  Let the guests descend!   Without advance warning.  Even a few raindrops will do.  As long as they remember to enter in through the back door like today’s unexpected guest.   

Steel Magnolia

13 Wednesday May 2009

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Everyday Life, Magnolia Trees, Mesta Park, Oklahoma Gardening, Writing

With my husband out of town for what seems like forever, I’m reduced to keeping up with local weather forecasts on my own. 

So having done my homework before tuning in, I was surprised to be awakened at 2 a.m. last night by the far away sound of  thunder.  A silent minute later, deciding the thunder had been a vivid dream, I settled back into bed, to again hear what sounded like another rumble.  A strong Oklahoma wind, 40 mph whipping down the plain fast, soon had my old windows humming and vibrating.  

Then came the rain.  And memories of twenty years of  tropical storms I had experienced when living ten miles from the Texas coast were reawakened to rest along side me.  Remembering the damage of tropical winds, I half expected to wake up  a downed Magnolia tree in our backyard this morning.  Soggy soil and strong wind proved a deady combination for many huge Texas trees.  And our old Magnolia tree is not doing well. 

In the last  three year’s, our poor tree has been put through something akin to the tree world’s trials of Job.  Its first three bruisings came compliments of the Oklahoma weather rollercoaster.   Three yeasrs ago, our State was in the midst of a long drought.  As luck woud have it, the drought was broken briefly the day we moved in, by a  light Methodist sprinkle of water falling from the sky.  Though not a Baptist dunking, it did a fine job of baptizing us into our new life in Mesta Park.  

Our  first  summer proved a scorcher, with many broken record days of over 100 degree heat.   And our poor old Magnolia just suffered  since I didn’t know to  give it a slow and long weekly drink.  The following  summer we experienced a monsoon, when the entire month of June was one big rainy day.  Then six months later, we were crippled by freezing rain that ended up damaging and felling many old trees that in turn took out the neighborhood power lines.  I don’t think I’ll ever forget the arrival of the Oklahoma National Guard in front of our house, who chainsawed and stacked the remains of a fallen limb, that once reached across the street from a neighbor’s gorgeous American Elm.  The limb itself was large enough to completely cutoff traffic.  Our Magnolia lost a few limbs and more than a few branches and like the other trees of the neighborhood, has looked a little crippled ever since.

Then last summer, as if the Oklahoma weather hadn’t done enough to kick this old  tree around, we gave it another beating by beginning our backyard construction project, distrubing  the tree’s root system.  After the damage was done I learned that Magnolia’s, more than most, just hate to have their feet messed with.  But so far, it lives.

May and June brings a lot of leaf drop on Magnolia trees in Oklahoma.  And while everyday is a leaf drop sort of day for a Magnolia, the tree absolutley rains leaves four weeks a year, even without wind.  This past week I’ve collected a full grocery sack every day.   And the transformation has been incredible — two weeks ago our tree had so many off color leaves it looked sick with yellow fever, while today its mostly a waxy green shiny.  

Magnolia leaf drop, which leaves a tree a little naked and exposed, is nature’s way of preparing the tree for its season of blooms.  Beneath all those yellow leaves on my old tree, were creamy Magnolia blooms waiting for their moment in the sun.  And I absolutely love Magnolia blooms.  Even now, one is partially opened with a bee  circling it madly, but kept from its vocation by the still strong Oklahoma wind. 

I pray our tree will prove a survivor just like that one down the street at the Murrah Memorial.  Two more years may tell whether its out of the woods.  And in the meantime, I’ll just watch the blooms unfold and tend to the tree’s needs, as best as I can, as this old Job steels itself for another long hot summer.  And while the tree wrestles with God for new life, I’ll just pick up its old cast-offs, offer it long and slow refreshing summer drinks, and let it soak in some Epsom Salts over the winter. 

And  unlike Job’s friends, I’ll attend its wounds in silence.

Good Night, Moonshadow

28 Tuesday Apr 2009

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, The Great Outdoors

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Aging, Cat Stevens, Death, Everyday Life, Parents, Writing

There’s a lovely crescent moon out tonight doing its best to light the night sky.  This little sliver of a moon is encircled by a halo of light that looks like smudged paint.  Could it be moon dust, I wonder? 

 

 If I were to write a book called Good Night Moon, my moon would definitely be crescent shaped.   I would ask it to shine its light into my daddy’s bedroom window so he would no longer be afraid of the night.  Maybe if it could shine bright enough, it would help daddy stop bumping into floors.  Dad’s wearing a bad shiner right now around his left eye.  Last week it was crescent shaped, but now it’s a full moon encircling his eye.  Purple, blue and yellow—he says it doesn’t hurt.

 

I would tell my moon how thankful I am that my brother Jon has been able to help me care for Dad this Tuesday and last.  As I do the housekeeping, Jon helps Daddy with personal care.  It feels good to help Dad the way he helped us kids when we were little.  This circle of caregiving shows that we have a cycle just as the moon does.  Where the moon goes from a blank new moon to a gorgeous full moon back to a blank new moon, we humans begin life needy and end life needy.  And in the middle, when we are full of ourselves and our own light, we are still needy though we often do not see our need.  It is probably our own blinding light that makes us a little dim-witted.

 

I would tell my moon that I’m now on the light-dimmer side.  The light is slipping out of my moon bit by bit, and in a mere twenty years, I’ll be close to my father’s age.  God willing.  And I can’t even imagine living the shrunken shriveled life my daddy is living right now – too frail to walk, too frail to talk.  Is he becoming a new moon – invisible to the eye, but there all the same?

 

The moon borrows its light from the sun.  And Daddy borrows his light from us.  And like that lovely crescent moon outside my window tonight, Daddy is doing his best to light up his world. 

 

Cat Stevens sang a song called Moonshadow that speaks to Daddy’s dimming light.    

 

“And if I ever lose my legs, I won’t moan, and I won’t beg,

Yes if I ever lose my legs, oh if … I won’t have to walk no more.

And if I ever lose my mouth, all my teeth, north and south,

Yes if I ever lose my mouth, oh if… I won’t have to talk…”

 

I guess that smudge paint halo that tonight’s crescent moon is wearing is a moon shadow.  Good night, moonshadow.  

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