How it humbles me to know — that my granddaughter’s suitcase has been packed since four o’clock yesterday — that she could hardly wait to spend time with me.
Relationships between grandparents and their grandchildren are as mystical as the nature of time and life itself. Without trying to reduce it to words, all I can say is that what is ordinary somehow becomes extraordinary when “grand” people get together. It was that way with me and mine, that way between my children and theirs and now, it appears, it’s also that way with my own ‘grands.’
Me and this once curly top grandchild of mine — the one coming today — go way back. We spent many days together, Curly Karson and I — the best part of two years — back during her Shirley Temple look-alike years, when this photo was taken, in the midst of her third year of life. Six years fast-forward, she’s in the middle of her ninth year. And, I pray, I won’t sound too grandmother-ish by commenting how I think she’ growing up way too fast, which, I fear, means I too, must be growing old right beside her?
Much like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, I feel as if I’m standing at the intersection of four different yellow brick roads. From this point of the post, I could take off in many directions. Why if I wished I could write of those lessons Karson taught me — about paying attention to life — which she did, without effort, while I was attending to her young life. “Look, Nana, an airplane!” — “Look, Nana. Birds.” And sure enough. Who but a child would notice them, or regard them as a miracle to share? Airplanes and birds in the sky. Why I learned during those years that there was an ever ready, never ending supply of flying objects to notice — why all one had to do was stop, look and listen to the larger world around them — rather than keeping their heads in clouds or lost in the latest task at hand.
Or shall I recall how Shirley Temple look-alikes run in our family, how my Aunt Carol, when she was a pre-schooler, was ‘discovered’ by a Hollywood talent scout in the late thirties. Oh how he wished to sign her on the spot to play Shirley’s little sister, after seeing my not-yet aunt perform a song and dance routine on top of a neighborhood bar? Funny how Aunt Carol called out of the blue yesterday to make sure I was paying attention to the ‘severe’ weather forecasts, to make sure I had a storm cellar to run to if need arose.
Or do I confess how different today will be, after spending the last three weeks with ghosts of family past — thinking, thinking, thinking — occasionally writing — occasionally uncovering a new puzzle piece to add to the pile — occasionally making a magical connection, locking a couple of puzzling pieces of Dad’s childhood story together. Why his story consumes me. Which is to say, history consumes me, that it consumes the best hours of the day, as time slips like sand through an hourglass, while I sit in a chair with monkeys on my back — stories and old photos spread about me — wondering about next steps. I’m all alone with it, with only Aunt Carol’s memory and historical archives to point me in another direction, in my chase of rainbows and fabled pots of gold lying at tale’s end.
But as for the direction of this post, I suppose it’s most fitting to attend to the present, like Karson taught me all those years ago. She’ll be here in an hour or so. Already, since writing these words, she’s called to let me know how excited she is to come. And do I have exciting plans? Well, no. Not really. Oh, I suppose we’ll make sugar cookies, because as she says, we ALWAYS make cookies, don’t we Nana?
But as for the rest, i don’t know what the day and evening will hold. There’s no use planning it to death, since children, too, prefer wiggle room for rainbow chasing and pots of gold. But, perhaps, if weather forecasters are wrong and weather plays nice, we’ll go to the art museum.
Or, if weather turns nasty and predictable, we can just stay home — pop some corn and watch something stormy on the small screen. Maybe we’ll watch Helen Hunt chase a Twister or two with that Dorothy weather invention of her’s. Or maybe, we’ll immerse ourselves in history, and watch a twister of a different shade that begins in marvelous black and white and dumps an over-the-rainbow singing Dorothy Gail and ToTo, too, into a magical land of living color.
Wherever we land, here’s hoping Karson saved space in that suitcase of her’s for a few grand memories to take home with her.
I completely agree that this grandparent/grandchild relationship is mystical. I didn’t have a clue until two of them came into my life within three months in 2010. It’s like you’re reborn, with their keen awareness of the present. They DO notice everything, and it’s all so new (to them). I love just following them around, and watching their excitement of what has become ordinary to us.
I find your words about ‘re-birth’ true to my experience. Perhaps more so, especially with the younger “grands”, as they first wake up to the world around them.
But just like giving birth, I’m exhausted. Karson’s been gone five hours already and except for getting dinner ready to go into the oven, all I’ve done is veg out in front of the t.v.!
Kind of you to stop by and leave a note.
That’s the most delightful photo I’ve seen in some time – it’s really quite wonderful!
I smiled at your question: Who but a child would notice them, or regard them as a miracle to share? It reminds me of someone who once said, “Unless you become as a little child…” Those guys who followed him around certainly had the curiosity of children – they always were asking “Why…?” And then, he’d tell another story.
I just went looking and found something in my files – from February, 2008, before I’d even begun a WordPress blog. A friend on Weather Underground had a nephew who wanted to write, and she wondered what advice I’d have for him. HA! Me?
But what I said at the beginning of all this is pretty interesting – and one of the things I told her was, “Nurture a sense of curiosity about the world.”
It still seems like pretty good advice. Thank goodness we have the children around to keep reminding us.
Yes. That’s a special photo, taken by a West Columbia professional photographer, on the eve of our departure from Texas. Six years ago now. She really captured Karson’s impish personality — and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen Karson with just this same expression on her face over the years.
And as for the Jesus saying about little children, how often I’ve thought of his wise words, while keeping company with ‘grands.’ Your writer’s advice is good, not just for writing, but for living.
Karson and I went to the park this morning, even though it was gray and blustery. And while she was swinging herself on the swing, I looked up in the sky to see — what else? — an airplane. “Look, Karson. An airplane.” Six years ago, I wouldn’t have had a chance to beat her with the sky report.
Not sure what this little story says — but, that maybe one is never too old to learn — and that the student can become the teacher and vice versa.
Very good to see you pop up, and glad you didn’t suffer with the weather last night. They’re promising rain for us, but I haven’t seen a bit of it yet. Maybe, maybe not. I hope it’s yes – without the swirly things!
Hope you get that rain. We’ve had some beautiful showers. Almost three inches this weekend. The sun is shining now, while yesterday’s skies were bully threatening. Truly, weather is amazing. And when it comes to the miss and hits of life in tornado alley, it’s a crap shoot for sure.
She ought to be in pictures! And I’m sure she can win any audition with that photo. You must be one proud Nana. And how sweet it is that Karson so looked forward to coming and spending time with you. That’s just wonderful, Janell! I trust you two have had a marvellous weekend. I’m looking forward to seeing some recap photos. 😉
I did take a few photos — of Karson pushing my youngest granddaughter Reese in the neighborhood park swing. As is so often said, it was a case of “what goes around, comes around” — where I once pushed Karson in the swing, Karson is now old enough to push her toddling cousin, Reese.
Yet, it’s nice, when some times, what goes around is evidently good enough to go around again and again. And this best describes our weekend, since we didn’t veer off our ordinary track of everyday things to do — Karson played in the play area with my vintage forties kitchen appliance set, we read pages from a “Wimpy Kid”, we baked cookies and went to the park. The only thing we didn’t get to was The Wizard of Oz.
In the end, of course, what we did mattered less than the simple act of connecting with one another. Which happened, again, in a “what goes around, comes around” fashion — She called to see if she could come and I said ‘yes,’ following in the footsteps of her mother and aunt, who once called my mom, who always said ‘yes.’