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Save the Day

18 Saturday Jun 2011

Posted by Janell in Home Restoration, Life at Home, Soul Care

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Childhood Memories, Everyday God, Everyday Life, Father's Day, Parents, True Self

“Life is relationships.  Everything else is just moving furniture.”  — Sister Elizabeth Molina

My sister and aunt are coming to save the day on my living room, which for the moment, bears an uncanny likeness to “Grandma’s Attic.”  My grandmother didn’t have an attic but if she had, it might have looked like my living room.

Saying Sis will ‘save the day” sounds a bit dramatic, especially when the phrase marries the task of rearranging furniture.  But the words just slipped out on to this white digital space, so here they will stay, in spite of reminding me of all those Saturday morning cartoons of my youth — the likes of Underdog and Superman and Mighty Mouse and even Rocky and Bullwinkle, who not only saved the day but saved their cartoonish worlds from evil.

This trinity of words stops me to wonder how many people we know — either now or ever — that could easily bring to mind this phrase.  In my life, it was Mother, for one.  With Father’s Day tomorrow, I wish I could say it was Daddy, but it wasn’t.  Daddy had his place in my life but it was not saving my world.  If anything, Daddy was one in need of being saved.

No, in her way, it was Mom who saved Daddy just as she saved us all.  She saved the day for many, especially in her prime, with all her wonderful bag of tricks — sewing, painting, restoration — but mostly just by dropping everything and showing up in my life and others  to set things right with her rock steady presence.

Sometimes, of course, Mom couldn’t put things right but it didn’t keep her from trying.  Over and over again she picked up the pieces of my brother Jon’s life — picking him up at Crack Houses, picking up Jon’s low self-esteem as best she could, picking up his trail of hot checks left all over town with money borrowed from others.  Only to have the entire ‘save the day, save his life’ routine begin again — over and over in endless waves of need — until Reality hit.

The summer before she died, Mom came to realize, that no matter how hard or often she tried, she’d never really be able to save the day for Jon.  Sometimes I wonder if this played part in her readiness to quit life here, to leave Jon’s messy life to bigger hands than hers, to someone that maybe really could save Jon.  Reality’s a hard thing to swallow even for superheros; so why am I now  suddenly recalling those ancient words whispered by another in a dark garden, with a trinity of friends sleeping on the job  of keeping watch nearby?:  “Father, let this Cup pass from me — yet not my will but yours be done.”  

What a brave thing for anyone to say — to admit one’s vulnerability, to give up pride, all semblance of control and their bag of tricks, especially with an angry mob bearing down on them.  Instead, this Savior chose to trust in the goodness of an invisible Father; he chose to believe that all will be well in the end, in spite of  current evidence to the contrary.

I do miss my mother, especially when I think of how she loved me no matter what.  How she judged me not.  How she took me as I am and not as I could be.  Or should be.  Maybe I loved her most for all of these because in these ways, she bore the greatest family resemblance to one greather than her, whose sandals she was unfit to tie.

And in my life, on this day, where my living room needs saving and furniture needs to be shuffled around, Sis bears a huge resemblance to my mother and Father.  I’m so glad Sis is coming, and bringing our auntie with her, whether or not we move a single stitch of furniture.

Besta Mesta

22 Tuesday Feb 2011

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Mesta Park

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Childhood Memories, Everyday Life, Mesta Park, Relocation

I deeply love this old neighborhood — the one I call home — the one most call more formally by first and last name:  Mesta Park.

While it’s never easy to describe why, I always begin by pointing out  its central location, how it’s within easy walking distance of downtown.  And how by car, with nearby access to two major highway arteries, I can get anywhere in the city in 20 minutes or less.  (After years of driving Houston expressways highways, I count this no small miracle.)

I like how whether I head north or south, it’s close to fine dining and local art and entertainment districts.  How residents need walk only a few blocks to grab a good cup of coffee.  Or something to eat from the many local cafes and bakeries that dot its crisp rectangular edges.  There’s a quaint charm afoot, when the neighborhood’s one small grocer and several churches sprinkled here and there allow most to cover daily needs of nourishment with only their “Chevrolegs.”

Life in Mesta Park is definitely slower — more so than other parts of the city, even those a mere three miles up the road by Penn Square Mall.  Residents excuse people for thinking otherwise, nestled as it is, against shadows of skyscrapers.  But more than slow, the neighborhood pulse is also steady — as a historic district, one can rest assured that the house next door will not schedule a date with a wrecking crew any time soon.

When traveling over Thirteenth Street — the historic district’s invisible drawn lower boundary — it helps to regard the crossing  as time travel.  It matters not whether carried by memory or imagination — one will arrive securely embraced by small town Americana — early twentieth century.  It’s a place where endless old shade trees line the curbs to attend the parade of neighborhood life.  It’s a place where patriotic banners proudly hang from beams of front porches — still well used.  And summer ice cream socials still gather neighbors in the park.   Where one finds residents – both two and four-legged – barking out friendly greetings as they pass on the sidewalk; voices of children chirping as they ride bikes to the park or sit behind  their lemonade stands, waiting for thirsty customers they know will stop.

Living here schools me in patience.  The neighborhood is home to many different stages of life and the houses and gardens do a good job of telling who lives where.  Immaculate lawns and gardens spell retiree or the absentee rich with hired help or perhaps a passionate gardener.  And while the neighborhood has more than its share of finely manicured lawns, most land somewhere near the “good enough” category.  It’s easy to imagine owners of these places spread too thin — trying hard to cover all the bases but running out of steam somewhere between third and  home plate.

Then there are those other yards practically begging for an explanation.  You know the  ones — talked about behind their backs rather than lent a helping hand.   Sometimes, when seen kneeling in the dirt of my own gardens, a passer-by will strike up casual conversation.  A few sentences in, they’ll pose their question, punctuated with a finger-point or nod of their head, “What’s the story on that corner house over there?”  And playing the part of mother to child, I’ll tell them what they already know but for some reason only God knows, like also to hear from me; something along the lines of how these neighbors of ours will get around to “it” sooner or later; and if too late of later, when reported to the City for having foot-high weeds.

Soon, it will be me passing through this old neighborhood on my way to a new-old home uptown from here.  And though I won’t stop to ask questions, I hope to always stop — at least mentally — to recall how lucky I once was to call this place home.   This old neighborhood and I go way back — every since it captured my childish heart while gazing out the window from the back seat of my parent’s mid-fifties Chevrolet.

Neither time nor space can change that.  It never has.  And I suppose it never will.

Standing by Sis

03 Thursday Feb 2011

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Soul Care

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Birthdays, Childhood Memories, Parents, Soul Care

I was six and a half when Sis was born.

Counting “the half” was important then; this I know for fact.  But what I don’t know and can’t recall is how I felt about having a baby sister.

I do remember the baby shower though, where I helped Mom unwrap many gifts.  The party was held at Edith Marshall’s house I believe, located just up the hill, west of the church where Mom and Dad married.   I remember Mom wearing a yellow corsage made from baby socks — which reminded me of soft baby chicks — fashioned into rosebuds held together by diaper pins.  The pins and socks, perhaps, were a nod to practicality, both intended for the new baby’s use.

I don’t remember Mom going to the hospital.  Or Mom being at the hospital.  Or Mom coming home from the hospital.  But I do remember seeing my baby sister lying in her used but freshly gussied up bassinet.  I whispered a promise to not wake the baby so I could watch her sleep.  I stood as close as I could get.  And looking in past the new lace ruffles adorning the wicker hood, I found her small.  No bigger than a baby doll.

Christi was the only one of us Dad named.  He chose to name her for his best childhood friend, Chris Alexopoulous.  He and Chris met in 1943 in Cohoes, New York, a few years after Dad’s mother died in a  tragic auto accident.  Dad may have lived there a year — and, while longer than many places Dad called home as a child, I wonder now, how Chris became so important to Daddy, in so brief an interlude, that Daddy would name a child for him.

I don’t imagine Chris knows Daddy honored him in this way.  Nor do I imagine Chris ever realized the regard Dad held for him, that so many years after knowing him, Dad would find a way to ensure he never forgot Chris and the friendship extended to the shy boy my father was.

But as I sat here and write, I realize many regard my dear sister in just this way — in the same way Daddy regarded his best friend Chris.  So while Dad may have initiated the honor to his good friend through his act of naming, Christi has extended Dad’s honor through the way she lives her life, as she stands by friends through trials and joys.

I don’t imagine Sis knows the good she does through her simple gift of friendship.  But then, perhaps there’s nothing simple about friendship.   If there were, wouldn’t we have more friends?  Fewer acquaintances?

— Happy birthday, Sis.

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