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Still Life

01 Tuesday Nov 2011

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Soul Care, Writing

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Blogging, Evening, Everyday Life, Soul Care, True Self, Writing

“And if she did not remember these things who would?  After she was gone there would be no one who knew the whole of her life.  She did not even know the whole of it!  Perhaps she should have written some of it down…but really what would have been the point in that?  Everything passed, she would too.  This perspective offered her an unexpected clarity she nearly enjoyed, but even with the new clarity, the world offered no more explanation for itself than it ever had.” 
– Evening, by Susan Minot
 

I woke up thinking about last night’s mad dash to post a few October stills while October still had breath in its body.  As if this blog was my very own Pinterest board to remember life with a few little links.

Then as one thought always leads to another, I began thinking about all those October moments — no less important — that passed without an attempt to preserve the moment.  No written words.  No images, published or otherwise, at least in my possession.  Like,

  • last Sunday’s final Moveable Feast for the year, a rare event where every family member sat in attendance,
  • a cute almost 10 month-old Reese Caroline dressed up like a little lamb for her first Halloween, so unhappy in her costume you’d think she was being led to … (no I can’t say it…),
  • the beauty coming forth in the east garden, once a forgotten side yard used to grow weeds and hold leftover stone,
  •  the nine Nellie Stevens hollies planted on Saturday — doesn’t this sound like it belongs as a stanza in the Twelve Days of Christmas?, and
  • my new kitchen finally finished… except that I’ve decided to repaint it all again.

And the list lives on into infinity.

And then I look up to see the morning light casting this lovely November image on the wall — the very one that became header for this post.  Perhaps, I think, it’s a gift for All Saint’s Day to remind me that what we see is not all that’s there?

I reach for my camera to capture it.  To find, with no surprise whatsoever, that it wasn’t at all what I saw, it wasn’t at ALL what I experienced.  Not by half.  Because what I observed was so much better and richer than what I’m able to preserve.

I post a few words and images knowing, even as I write, it’s not necessarily the best of everyday life or even the best of me.  But sometimes, yes sometimes — perhaps when the light is just right, and maybe’s it when I’m most aware of the play of the light and shadows, that a few words are born into the blog that mimic life in the moment enough to breathe shallowly upon the page.

A still image begins to sway and dance so that it’s a trick and treat to the eye.  Mere slats from my window blinds cast shadows on the wall which mysteriously transform into a musical staff; the shadow of curled ironed work of the floor lamp looks like a treble clef; and something — I’m not sure what — maybe leaves on the tree outside my window? — begin to jump up and down the lines looking like musical notes dancing upon staff lines.

The shadow and light become a symphony like this.

And I think: Can life get better than this?  If life is like THIS every moment of every day, then there’s no such thing as an everyday life — at least, as. everyday is commonly thought of — COMMON.  PLAIN JANE.  VANILLA.  Dare I say….BORING?

And because of this mind set, and our own lack of attention — for surely I’m not alone in attention deficits — is it any wonder we can’t know the whole of our lives?

Save the Day

18 Saturday Jun 2011

Posted by Janell in Home Restoration, Life at Home, Soul Care

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Childhood Memories, Everyday God, Everyday Life, Father's Day, Parents, True Self

“Life is relationships.  Everything else is just moving furniture.”  — Sister Elizabeth Molina

My sister and aunt are coming to save the day on my living room, which for the moment, bears an uncanny likeness to “Grandma’s Attic.”  My grandmother didn’t have an attic but if she had, it might have looked like my living room.

Saying Sis will ‘save the day” sounds a bit dramatic, especially when the phrase marries the task of rearranging furniture.  But the words just slipped out on to this white digital space, so here they will stay, in spite of reminding me of all those Saturday morning cartoons of my youth — the likes of Underdog and Superman and Mighty Mouse and even Rocky and Bullwinkle, who not only saved the day but saved their cartoonish worlds from evil.

This trinity of words stops me to wonder how many people we know — either now or ever — that could easily bring to mind this phrase.  In my life, it was Mother, for one.  With Father’s Day tomorrow, I wish I could say it was Daddy, but it wasn’t.  Daddy had his place in my life but it was not saving my world.  If anything, Daddy was one in need of being saved.

No, in her way, it was Mom who saved Daddy just as she saved us all.  She saved the day for many, especially in her prime, with all her wonderful bag of tricks — sewing, painting, restoration — but mostly just by dropping everything and showing up in my life and others  to set things right with her rock steady presence.

Sometimes, of course, Mom couldn’t put things right but it didn’t keep her from trying.  Over and over again she picked up the pieces of my brother Jon’s life — picking him up at Crack Houses, picking up Jon’s low self-esteem as best she could, picking up his trail of hot checks left all over town with money borrowed from others.  Only to have the entire ‘save the day, save his life’ routine begin again — over and over in endless waves of need — until Reality hit.

The summer before she died, Mom came to realize, that no matter how hard or often she tried, she’d never really be able to save the day for Jon.  Sometimes I wonder if this played part in her readiness to quit life here, to leave Jon’s messy life to bigger hands than hers, to someone that maybe really could save Jon.  Reality’s a hard thing to swallow even for superheros; so why am I now  suddenly recalling those ancient words whispered by another in a dark garden, with a trinity of friends sleeping on the job  of keeping watch nearby?:  “Father, let this Cup pass from me — yet not my will but yours be done.”  

What a brave thing for anyone to say — to admit one’s vulnerability, to give up pride, all semblance of control and their bag of tricks, especially with an angry mob bearing down on them.  Instead, this Savior chose to trust in the goodness of an invisible Father; he chose to believe that all will be well in the end, in spite of  current evidence to the contrary.

I do miss my mother, especially when I think of how she loved me no matter what.  How she judged me not.  How she took me as I am and not as I could be.  Or should be.  Maybe I loved her most for all of these because in these ways, she bore the greatest family resemblance to one greather than her, whose sandals she was unfit to tie.

And in my life, on this day, where my living room needs saving and furniture needs to be shuffled around, Sis bears a huge resemblance to my mother and Father.  I’m so glad Sis is coming, and bringing our auntie with her, whether or not we move a single stitch of furniture.

“Tongued With Fire”

15 Tuesday Feb 2011

Posted by Janell in Soul Care

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Soul Care, True Self

An ancient sacred story tells how once, a burning bush caused questions of identity to slip off a tongue and fall loose of famous lips.   Personal experience teaches how they slip and fall equally well before a burning candle in spiritual direction.

Moses began his asking (or better to say, his un-masking) with this one:

“Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh, and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?“

Yet to realize Moses posed his questions at the ripe age of eighty makes me long to shake my head — as if to say, “Oh, Moses, Moses — when will you ever learn — when will you learn not to throw up such  ineffective smoke screens before God?”   And perhaps I would.  But for a real fear I may still be asking questions like his myself.  When I’m eighty-one.

Connecting the two question-mark dots, Moses to my own, makes me wonder:  Is it possible questions of identity ripen best on holy ground?

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