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Quotidian Laundry

08 Wednesday Apr 2009

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My dryer is not working so I’ve turned our upstairs bath into a makeshift dryer.  Everyday I hang a new load of laundry on towel and shower curtain rods, and on the shower head and caddy.  With the sun streaming through the west window, the little room quickly becomes saturated with the lovely scent of clean laundry.

 

As I’ve hung clothes this week, I’ve thought of those old clothes lines that use to be a staple in every backyard, long before backyards became outdoor entertaining spaces.  When we redid our backyard a year ago, we created a small utility area to hold my compost tumbler and two large trash cans.  I expressed hope of making room for a small clothes line as well…. but my husband couldn’t imagine how this would mesh with our landscaping plan. Remembering my granny’s clothes line full of sheets and towels and unmentionables flapping in the wind, I thought it might fit in quite nice, as I am planting a cottage garden rather than one more formal.  

 

My next door neighbor still has one of his vintage clothes line poles.  The big letter ‘T” hangs out near our shared fence and I wonder where its twin has gone.  My daughter Kara’s backyard may also have just one clothes line pole.  I wish I could put one and one together and marry them with wire for use in my own backyard.  Then I could once again sleep on crisp white sheets, bleached by the sun, full of that special scent that can only be described as line-dried sheets.  I fear at least half of North America would not know this smell if it hit them in the face, because unlike me, they’ve never  had the pleasure of being near sheets, anchored by clothes pins, flapping them in the face.  An Oklahoma wind doesn’t always play nice, and rarely does it tumble gently.           

 

These words about laundry remind me of a Kathleen Norris book I read six years ago – “The Quotidian Mysteries – Laundry, Liturgy and “Women’s Work.””  My friend Kathy, who once titled herself, the “diva of the dishwasher,” could write words worth reading if she were so inclined,  like this other Kathy whose book she gave me. 

 

I would like to be a ‘diva of the dryer,’ but the repair shop cannot tell me when my part will be in.  Even in this day of high technology and instant communication, some things remain mysterious.  Is this a quotidian mystery as well?   To answer, I must pull out my partially chewed up Merriam Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary, Tenth Edition, which is now a little lighter for the hunk Max took off the corner last Sunday.  And there it is:      

 

“Quotidian:  occurring every day; belonging to every day, commonplace, ordinary.”

 

No wonder I am pulled toward reading this old friend again.  Ms. Norris’ everyday mysteries and my own everyday stories make me think of two clothes poles in two separate yards.  What kind of laundry connects them, if any?  And how in the world could an un-everyday word like quotidian mean everyday?  It is a word worth hanging onto, as I hang our freshly washed laundry on my makeshift clothes lines and wait for the quotidian mystery of a dryer part to show itself.

Empty Nest

07 Tuesday Apr 2009

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It’s a rare day at home without plans.  The gorgeous day lies before me with endless possibilities.  What will I do?

 

Whatever it is, the day began on a high note when the phone rang and it was Kate Louise.  Phone calls from my daughter Kate are exceedingly rare as her days and nights are full with new life.  In her first year as a registered nurse, she works for an OB-GYN practice in Norman, and when she’s not doing that, she shares life with her new husband Glen and her new step-children Ryan and Tayler and her own two munchkins, Jackson and Karson. 

 

As I listen to her talk about her busting-to-the-seams life, what with baseball and softball practice and games and gymnastics and devoting Saturdays to caring for her step-daughter’s infant, I am reminded of my own history of career woman by day and Suzy Homemaker-by-night, in those days of young adulthood when anything seemed possible if I only worked hard enough, when I measured fullness of life more by the stuff packed in than the stuff unpacked.

 

As I write this, I realize that even now, life is too full.  Why else would I treasure this rare day of having no plans?  My fullness comes no longer from raising money and children, but raising flowers and God consciousness and maybe helping others to do the same, as I undertake plans toward certification in master gardening and in spiritual direction.

 

What is it with certifications anyway?  I am a certified public accountant, though I no longer practice.  When I did, I found certification did not make accountants better than they were before receiving their certificate.  By the same token, I’ve learned from working the master gardening ‘hope desk’ that certification means very little in the way of practical knowledge.   And I imagine it will be no different in serving as another’s spiritual director.  Maybe certification is merely a sort of good housekeeping seal of intention to practice what cannot lead to perfection.     

 

The practice I most enjoy these days is writing.  It’s one of two daily practices that force me to empty and regularly sort through my everyday life.  Both invite me to tiptoe closer to eternity, where time grows so heavy it stops and where busyness has no meaning.  Maybe if I’m lucky, some of my written words will survive my death, and until then, perhaps the clarity they shed will allow me to live larger than life.    

 

It’s ironic that I most enjoy the practices where certifications are not given.  While certifications have inspired others to listen to my words, and even to pay me for them, the best listening happens without want of certifying, as the words written and prayed just naturally seek the right audience.  And maybe my own audience is the most important of them all, as prayer and writing force me to listen to my own life.   

 

I will leave today empty of plans.  And with this intention written and prayed, already a sense of fullness invades.  I scoot over to make room in my nest for something larger than me.   

Hidey Wholes

05 Sunday Apr 2009

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“Hello darkness, my old  friend

I’ve come to talk with you again”

                                    –Paul Simon, The Sounds of Silence

 

Our fifty pound puppy Max is trampling through this old house at the speed of sound.  The floors groan in protest at such slip shod treatment.  Down the stairs and around two corners and he dives for his hidey hole—plunk…. plop. The space that once fit his so nicely, underneath our dining room buffet, now forces him to scrunch down low to enter.  But once there, he sprawls and stretches to match his entire length and width to the confines of his hidey hole.  He is safe from the torments of his world, which mostly come from his sister Maddie.  And within the sounds of silence, he falls asleep as his head rests on the floor.

 

Like Max, I retreat to catch my breath, to release dark thoughts and to breathe in the aroma of fresh possibilities.  When I empty myself, it gives God room to work a miracle, maybe not overnight, but over the space of my life.  Breath by breath, I work to quiet the riots fighting for attention in the streets of my mind.  I expel the darkness so it no longer eats away at my soul.  Nightly examen is a refuge against the goblins of the night.  And it helps me see those sneaky solutions that come by special delivery, from an angel of light tapping me on the shoulder.   

 

As I write this, two of my friends are seeking asylum from the dark cares of their world.  One has packed up her two cats and a pile of books to go sit out by a river that runs near her country cabin.  Another runs with music in her ear and the wind in her face. As she runs, I envision her becoming lighter than air, as the weight of anxiety and troubles lag far behind. 

 

I’ve written both friends this week to let them know they are not alone in their cares.  The words I normally devote to this blog were offered yesterday to the friend who runs.  I needed her to know that I was cheering her on from the sidelines, just as if she were running the Boston Marathon, because the kind of trouble she faces may not be solved with a quick sprint.  And after she empties from all her running, I invited her to surround herself with all that makes her most whole.  As I always do, I invited my dear friend to breathe.

 

“Breathe dear friend.  Breathe in the aroma of the living God—breathe in the fragrance of spring grass and flowers and salty ocean air.  Run barefoot on the sandy beach and let the water lap around your ankles.  Let the breeze caress your face and dry your tears.  And know that God is not “up there somewhere’ but as close as the air you breathe, that fills your lungs and rests around your heart.”

 

Through the sounds of silence, healing will find both of us… as well as my other friend who sits by a running river and Max who rests under the buffet.  Wholeness will come to those who wait, even in dark hidey holes.