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Because they said so

04 Sunday Oct 2009

Posted by Janell in Life at Home

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Childhood Memories, Everyday Life, Parents

The story begins when girl meets boy on a blind date.  Not so impressed, the girl decides she will not go out with the boy again.  So she refuses his invitation when he calls for another date.  But when the boy keeps on calling, she begins to feel sorry for him.  So she finally gives in and accepts the boy’s invitation for a second date.  And then later, for who knows what reasons he asked and she responded, they went ahead and got married.  

This public story of how my parents came to be married makes me wonder about the underlying personal stories I do not know.  Unlike my Aunt Jo and Uncle Bob, I do not believe my parents were a love match.  For fifty-two years, they treated each other more like business partners than lovers.  And I don’t think they dated very long.  Because even basic facts like my father’s age were not shared until later.  My mother learned that my father was four years her senior when he provided his date of birth for my birth certificate.  It wasn’t that Dad was hiding the fact;  Mother had just assumed that Dad was a year older than her since he had graduated high school a year ahead of her.  Since Mom thought she knew, she’d hadn’t bothered to ask.  And only when it was clear she didn’t know did Dad bother to set the facts straight.   

I only saw my parents kiss one time.  And that was at my request, some Christmas Eve afternoon, almost fifty years ago.   So if is wasn’t for love, why did my parents marry?  Was Dad looking for a mother figure?  Did he hunger for the stability of a real home?  Did Mom marry Dad on the rebound?  Or did Mom marry Dad because it was time to marry rather than because she’d found Mr. Right?

But even without romance, my parents stayed married.  Like many others of their marital vintage, they stayed married because they said they would. 

For Sale

30 Wednesday Sep 2009

Posted by Janell in Life at Home

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1960s, Childhood Memories, College Interviews, Everyday Life, Mad Men, Parents, Raising Children

I’ve just finished watching two episodes of season one of Mad Men, the popular AMC television series about people connected with a Madison Avenue based advertising business in 1960.  It’s a show about salesmanship; the mad men sell their ideas to the clients so that they can create ads to sell the product of their client.  Four episodes in, the characters I thought I liked and didn’t have become jumbled; as characters become less cardboard, my likes turn to dislikes and vice versa.  To the creators of Mad Men, I say bravo.  I  was hooked with just one episode.

In addition to being well done, part of the appeal of Mad Men is that it reminds me so much of growing up in the sixties.  I recognize the decor in the homes as well as the cars people drive.  And all the cigarette smoke.  I’d forgotten how popular smoking was then.  But some things I was too young to know.  For instance, Mad Men depicts 1960 Corporate America as a caste system:  Jews and gentiles did not mix, women were secretaries and switchboard operators rather than professionals, and of course the racial line between black and white was huge and bold and not crossed.  If this characterization is correct, I’m glad I entered the workforce in the late seventies rather than seventeen years before.

By 1977, women professionals were no longer a novelty, though we were still trying to figure out the ground rules.  For instance, I tried hard just to be seen as one of the guys.  I worked just as hard, traveled without complaint if needed, and wore my version of a business suit.  Of course, when I became pregnant, the guys thought I wouldn’t return to work.  But I did.  And believe me, I kept under wraps that I cried all the way to work that first day back, after leaving my eight week baby girl with another woman to watch.     

I entered the accounting profession, by the grace of God, as an employee of a small regional accounting firm.  The ‘Big 8″ firms didn’t want me, in spite of my stellar grades.  And the lack of job offers had nothing to do with my sex.   Plain and simple, I just didn’t know the rules of interviewing, and because I was painfully shy and insecure, I could not sell myself.  I hate that phrase — selling myself –it sounds like prostitution.  But that’s the interview game is a nutshell:  the interviewer tries to sell the candidate on his employer and candidates try to sell themselves to company representatives.  An after all the selling comes the waiting to see whether anyone was sold.    

My college interview experiences have been on my mind the last few days because my oldest son is going through the interview sweepstakes right now.  And since Bryan has more than a few on campus interviews lined up with public accounting firms, I’ve tried to sell him a few tips.  But my best advice to Bry was to have fun on his interviews.  Because people having fun are more relaxed.  And if relaxed, Bry will  focus more on others rather than trying too hard to sell himself.  

Best to leave the business of selling to those Mad Men on Madison Avenue.  But let’s see if we can make use of a famous ad slogan to wrap us this sale post:  “Don’t get Mad.  Get Glad.” 

Sunday Dinner

13 Sunday Sep 2009

Posted by Janell in In the Kitchen

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Childhood Memories, Cooking, Everyday Life, French Dip Sandwiches, In the Kitchen, Parents, Peanut Butter Frosting, Roast Beef

My mother-in-law invited us to Sunday dinner today.  There was good reason to celebrate.  Miracle of miracles:  All three of her children are in town.  And this just doesn’t happen.  One lives in San Francisco, one splits time between the Middle East  and Asia and my husband, except for the last three years, has spent his entire adult life on the Texas Gulf Coast.   So what better way than a Sunday dinner table to gather everyone together?

In my family, whenever someone hosts dinner, all the women bring a dish – or two – or three.  I don’t know where or when the tradition began, but Sunday dinner always meant a shared work load.  Granny would prepare the meat and potatoes and maybe her mouth-watering fried corn.  And the rest was up to Granny’s daughters — my mother and two aunts.

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Home-Grown Tomatoes Galore

So in that share-the-labor vein, I asked my husband what dish we should bring.  And when he shrugged his shoulders, I asked what his mother was serving.  And with a big grin, he said, “Well, you know, it is Sunday.  And Sunday Dinner means only one thing. Roast beef.  But call Mom if you want to know what to bring.”

Jan wanted to keep it simple, so I offered to bring a yellow cake topped with my favorite peanut butter frosting.  And, just for good measure, to help Jan keep it simple, I offered to bring a package of Sister Shubert rolls; and then without asking, I used up some of my home-grown tomatoes on a side dish of macaroni and tomatoes.  Though none of these contributions took much effort, I hope I did the Taylor women proud.

It was great to have a ring-side seat at the dining table to watch  these four relive old family memories, especially the hilarious stories they told on Grandma Max.  No use mincing words; this lady had a bit of a mean streak.  And if it’s true what they say about only the good dying young, it may explain why Mammy lived to be ninety-six.  We laughed through story after story; and what made the stories so rich were the outrageous things she would say to people.  For instance, the poor innocent Meals-on-Wheels volunteers  would get:  “When are you going to get a real job?”   And this included the sacrifical lamb who had Max on his daily route; before he retired he was a prestigious OSU music professor.  No fiction writer could make up stuff as good as what Mammy created with her everyday life.

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Almost Gone Cake w/ Peanut Butter Frosting

After the stories were told and the kitchen tidied up, we sat around the table for a good old-fashioned visit over a slice of cake.  And by the time the visiting was done, I had two slices of cake to bring home.  An empty cake pan always provides the best testimony as to why this recipe is my favorite frosting.

While I don’t have Jan’s recipe for roast beef, I have one of my own that’s worth sharing.  And in the spirit of God, when he sent two times the manna to Moses and the Isralites to take care of Sunday dinner, I’m throwing in a second recipe just because.  Try one or both for your next family gathering.  From my life to yours.

Roast Beef

In a crock pot, set on high, cook following  for 4 to 5 hours until fork tender:
 
2 cups water
2 tsp salt – 1 tsp rubbed on top & bottom of roast
3 to 4 lb chuck roast
1 tsp garlic powder
1 tsp thyme
1 tsp rosemary
1 bay leaf
4 to 5 whole peppercorns
 

Variation:  French Dip

Leave out salt and add 1/2 cup reduced-sodium soy sauce.  All other ingredients and instructions the same.  Serve meat on crusty rolls & use broth as sandwich dip.

Peanut Butter Frosting

Bake your favorite yellow cake in a 9×13 pan.  After removing cake from oven, combine following ingredients in a medium sized sauce pan:
 
1/4 cup milk
1/4 cup butter
1/4 cup peanut butter (crunchy or smooth)
1/2 cup brown sugar
pinch of salt
 
Bring ingredients to a boil and boil for one minute, stirring constantly.  Then cool to lukewarm without stirring.  Once cool, add to sauce pan:
 
1/2 cup of sifted powder sugar
1 tsp vanilla
 
Beat with electric mixer until spreading consistency.  Immediately spread on cake.
 
 
 
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