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Show and Tell

12 Saturday Feb 2011

Posted by Janell in Good Reads, Soul Care, Writing

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Books, Everyday Life, Mary Oliver, Soul Care, Writing

I’ve been restless. Searching for something that satisfies.  Blindly.   And in the wrong spots.

Yet in this morning’s reading, I’ve stumbled upon hope.  Which quickly grew to excitement.  With a wish to shout out, Eureka!  Loud.  Enough to wake up those Greek ancestors and who ever else sleeps in late Saturday mornings.

This will have to do.

It’s not that I think all my answers lie within this particular book of prose written by Mary Oliver.   But there is something breathing upon these pages beckoning me forward to take a look.  It came when reading these few lines flowing from the Forward to Long Life just now.  And in reading, I felt a need to respond — as I felt these more eloquent words respond to mine yesterday.

“Poets must read and study, but also they must learn to tilt and whisper, shout, or dance, each in his or her own way, or we might just as well copy the old books.  But, no, that would never do, for always the new self swimming around in the old world feels itself uniquely verbal.  And that is just the point: how the world, moist and bountiful, calls to each of us to make a new and serious response.  That’s the big question, the one the world throws at you every morning.  “Here you are, alive.  Would you like to make a comment?”

Yes.

And with “show and tell” now over, I’m going back for more of what Mary’s served up.  And there I’ll read and live toward my next response.

You Who

30 Tuesday Nov 2010

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Soul Care

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Books, Dr. Suess Baby Shower, Everyday Life, Love, Soul Care, True Self

Women do not like to share little-known facts about themselves.

I learned this while helping host Kara’s baby shower last Sunday.   And two days after the shower, I still can’t name the reasons for the reticence.

What I CAN say is that what seemed a good idea a month ago when invitations were mailed seemed foul by Sunday.  And to my way of thinking, it wouldn’t have been at all out of place — especially as our baby shower was themed around a Christmas tree at Who-Ville —  for me to yell these famous half-crazed Clark W. Griswold lines:

“Where do you think you’re going? Nobody’s leaving. Nobody’s walking out on this fun, old-fashioned family Christmas. No, no. We’re all in this together. This is a full-blown, four-alarm holiday emergency here. We’re gonna press on, and we’re gonna have the hap, hap, happiest Christmas since Bing Crosby tap-danced with Danny f—ing Kaye. And when Santa squeezes his fat white ass down that chimney tonight, he’s gonna find the jolliest bunch of assholes this side of the nuthouse.” — National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation

A mere month ago I was thinking how good it would be to have a get-acquainted parlor game to help members of Kara’s five families get to know each other a little better.  So I invited everyone to send me a a fun, little-known fact about themselves.

Here’s my accounting: Of the 25 guests attending, three sent their facts in on time without complaint — a dozen arrived by hook, crook and gnashing of teeth over Thanksgiving weekend — once I sent out Grinch cavalry, who looked an awful lot like me and my two daughters.  Of the remaining 10, five were turned in at the shower while five didn’t participate — two guests “lost” their cards somewhere in Kara’s house and the other three — well, let’s just say I “lost” the desire for treasure hunting.

Funny thing is that by all appearances, the game appeared to be a rousing success — even the five hold-outs seemed entertained.  Everyone enjoyed guessing who said what  — stumping the crowd with their fun facts — and then finding out whether they were right or wrong.

And after all the prizes were handed out, I’m pretty sure I wasn’t the only one to marvel at what had been revealed — and at WHO had been revealed.  All the females crowded together in Kara’s living room were wonderfully unique and special.  Kara was still talking about it this morning when I arrived at her house to paint.  And knowing how much I’ve thought of each fact and the woman who revealed it, I’d be surprised to learn the revelations hadn’t lingered in other minds too.

After all, how many times do we go to a party and walk away knowing something real about a person?  That this one had always wanted to be a nun, or that this one likes to travel so much she studies maps in anticipation of the places she will go.  And how about this one who won a poetry contest in middle school or that one who played in the Austin Symphony or how about the one who once learned how to roll her father’s cigarettes so that he wouldn’t have to stop driving while on a family vacation.

We don’t share ourselves enough  —  our real and true and best selves  anyway.  The stakes must be too high.  Maybe we play it safe to avoid being sorry.  So we end up sharing forgettable things that don’t really matter, that don’t go more than skin-deep, in words that roll off of our lips on automatic-pilot, words like “Oh, I’m fine — how are you?”  Here’s my confession: Sometimes after I’ve asked, I forget to listen to the answer.  So maybe we need to ask risky questions to get a memorable answer.

And as I ponder it more, maybe that’s what all that moaning and groaning before hand was about — folks we’re just plain rusty at revealing a piece of their truth.  We had to pry it out of them.  Or maybe — and I hope I’m wrong — maybe some mistakenly believed they didn’t have anything interesting or fun about themselves to reveal.  And if so, I hope they left believing something a little different  about themselves.  Even something little like this:

“A person’s a person no matter how small.”

Life of Pi

21 Sunday Mar 2010

Posted by Janell in Good Reads, Life at Home, Prayer, Soul Care, Writing

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Books, Everyday Life, Soul Care

My friend Connie couldn’t stop talking about this book.

That was seven years ago.  Yet, even now, I remember how Connie’s eyes shined and how my normally articulate book-loving friend stumbled for words when attempting to describe how this story made her feel.  Maybe it was this unfamiliar stumbling that caused Connie to pick up the book a second time.

But it was Connie’s third reading that finally garnered my attention.  Connie’s action, rather than her words, became  an enthusiastic endorsement that led me to plunk down fourteen dollars to possess my own personal copy of Yann Martel’s prize-winning novel, Life of Pi.

Like most of my book purchases, I promptly gave it a home on my bookshelves, to age and gather dust like fine wine.  The intent was to read it someday —  once I had aged and the words had aged, and once I came into an age of more time and less busyness.   My hope was that when someday arrived, once this book and I came to know one another, that my eyes too would shine and my tongue would stumble for lack of words.

Of course, my someday shriveled up and died.   There are always other words to read and enough tasks to fill any day.  Had it not been for the words of another “Connie,” my someday ship would still be off at sea.  It was three weeks ago that, words written by the author of Ripple Effects, stirred me to action:  I left my writing desk, walked down the stairs, across my living room to enter my book cellar of a library.  I scanned, I found, I pulled, I dusted and carried the book upstairs to place on my nightstand, to live beside other books of more serious intentions.

I had several books in front of it — I was finishing up one novel and had required reading for my Monday night class.  So I didn’t begin the story of Pi until a week ago.  Until yesterday, I read at the slow rate of a few pages a night.  But yesterday’s surprise snowfall offered me the perfect someday to finish the story, which I did in the company of three dogs, a soft reading lamp and a few hours of the clock.

“I have a story that will make you believe in God.” So Martel begins his story — or should I say stories — because two stories grow out of book — and we the readers, get to pick which version we wish to carry with us.  Is this a story about God and a young boy, a story about impossible miracles and providence?  Or is the story a simple human tragedy with a good ending?

My husband had to come up the stairs to remind me when it was time for us to eat.  The dogs had to remind me when it was time for them to eat.  I read right through the dog’s dinner bell, which thankfully, my husband answered.  And when I finished this story, I didn’t even bother to describe its impact on me.

Like all good stories, I don’t think we really know what seeds are sown from words freshly read.  It’s only with time and reflection and space and more time that thoughts of the reader and the writer integrate — likes seeds in soil — and either something grows from the planting or it doesn’t.  Perhaps like live seed, it depends upon how much nurture the seeds receive.

Yet there are twinges of thoughts that come as one takes in the words of a great story.  Mine was that the Life of Pi could be shorthand for a life of piety, for surely, the young boy Pi is pious in the best sense of the word — as one who has a heart devoted singularly to God, as one who punctuates his daily life with prayer, who has a heart for God that even allows him to love that murderer Richard Parker.  And is it not appropriate, that Pi’s nickname represents an infinite number, since piety and matters of the heart should be a never-ending story?

I can’t say whether this is a story that will make one believe in God.  But I know it’s a great story, and that it reminds me of other great stories in another great book — stories like the one about Adam, the first zookeeper, and Noah, another zookeeper and his Ark full of animals and Job, who was not a zookeeper, but suffered enough tragedy that led him to question the reasons for life and his feelings about God.

My friend Connie was right seven years ago.  The book begs a second reading.  Someday.

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