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A Garden Legacy

26 Sunday Jun 2011

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Life at Home, Soul Care, The Great Outdoors, Writing

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Aging, Everyday Life, Oklahoma Gardening, Soul Care, Writing

Truth be told, acquiring a garden in need —  on a lot twice our slice of Mesta Park  — was part of the charm of this new place we’re calling home.

Too bad I failed to recall how gardening in unamended red dirt is like childbirth; the pain of bringing forth new life in Mesta Park — of amending red clay with compost and peat moss to a twelve-inch depth were memories I forgot too soon, covered up as they were, by three years of keeping company with jaunty faces of thriving plants.

But these gardens do offer consolation — especially with all the hard-scape left behind.  Our large stone patio —  a perfect perch to watch the morning sun rise above the trees — along with ground-level curbing that outlines the perimeter of our backyard fence gardens will someday, when time and weather become more spacious and inviting, become lovely bones to build new gardens around.

Most mornings I’m out back  — in an effort to restore order — before the heat comes.  Working my way around the gardens counterclockwise, I began with the east garden, though I’ve spent more time on the north, where lined up like soldiers, are twelve troops of Crape Myrtles that two weeks ago, were a mass of tangled branches, dead and alive, surrounded by waist-high weeds.  Parasitic vines covered two.  With neither strength nor tools to do more than scratch the surface of the soil around them — three inches is deep in these conditions  — I’ve removed most weeds and vines and reformed the shrubs into the shape of their species.

While my garden legacy is a byproduct of neglect and drought, made worse by a home unoccupied many months, every garden holds hidden joys waiting for notice.  The week before we moved in I noticed my first in a small stand of Hollyhocks blooming on the east side of our property, growing appropriately along an old chain-link fence.  I saw them when beginning to weed out space for the few transplants I brought with me from Mesta Park.

Every morning I watered the Hollyhocks, alongside thirsty transplants —  a few sprigs of Blue-Black Salvia and Russian Sage and a small crop of inch-high Cleome — that rewarded my care, by shriveling up and laying their heads on hot cracked soil.  Had it not been for the Hollyhocks, blooming their long necks off, I may have given up on those transplants, for I felt a mite foolish watering plants which looked dead to the eye.  But underneath there was life and all but a few have survived.  Looking back, I now see the transplants  had only let go of their surface looks to focus energy on rebuilding hidden roots, to regain their balance in soil different than they were accustom.

As I watered, I wondered who to thank for my favorite of all cottage flowers.  I began with my new neighbor — the one who putters around in his own garden with such daily discipline — but he quickly told me the Hollyhocks that we both enjoy came from Marguerite, who lived in the next house east to him.  In her nineties, Marguerite  was one of the few original homeowners left in the neighborhood; when I expressed interest in writing her a note of thanks, my neighbor shared she was under around-the-clock care of others, hinting she was likely in a place beyond reach of any words I might care to write.

Yet the thought of thanking Marguerite did not go away.  I thought of her again as I watered the Hollyhocks a few days ago, which now are mostly spent; though in their place are a few feathery seedlings that have sprung up which surely must be Cosmos.  If so, could these too  have come from Marguerite’s, since Cosmos are so often companions to Hollyhocks.  How many years had these seeds laid beneath the surface, waiting for conditions to ripen?

The question was enough to move me to my computer, to look up the spelling of Marguerite’s name on local property tax records.  One research led to another, and possibly to another, before I uncovered Marguerite’s recent obituary.  She had died late February without our mutual neighbor’s notice.  The news stunned me.  It made me sad —  on more than one level.  But as I began to get my roots about me, I saw how Marguerite, at least to my way of thinking, was not beyond words of gratitude at all; that I can remember Marguerite with a grateful heart, anytime I water my east garden.  And maybe even here, with these few words I’m scattering in digital space.

It’s enough, these words of mine.  I’ll spread no other about Marguerite’s passing, across the fence or anywhere else; surely the neighbors will find out when the time is ripe.

Tally Ho Hum

04 Saturday Sep 2010

Posted by Janell in Far Away Places, Life at Home, The Great Outdoors

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Aging, Travel, Vancouver, Whale Watching

Steam Clock - Gastown in Vancouver

There’s been a whole lot of ‘Tally Ho’ the last thirteen days.  And today was to be no different.

We were going to tour my sole vacation ‘must-do’ — Victoria and The Butchart Gardens.  My husband had built our trip around these by adding two extra days in Vancouver.

Plans fell into place like clockwork, with a tour company who specializes in local whale watching.   In waters around Vancouver, it’s not unusual to spot Humpbacks, Gray Whales and Orcas this time of the year.  And another chance to be near whales in their natural habitat sounded a perfect way to travel to Victoria.

Walking into the cool morning light, we arrived at the dock.   First.  After checking in with the tour operator, we bought a sandwich to share on the boat.   I didn’t want to  spend any of our 4.5 hours on the island eating lunch, once we arrived in Victoria at 1:00 PM.

Looking back, there were warning signs.  Had this been a movie, perhaps JAW’s music would have accompanied the signs.  Waters were choppy round Vancouver.   All other whale-watching tour operators canceled today’s tours.  Our tour operators wore serious expressions as we boarded.  “No going up top,” they told us, as we had at Glacier Bay.  Instead, we had to stay seated below, to keep one hand on the rail at all times.

One grew seasick anyway.  The rest of us held it together.  But forty minutes into our trip, something caused one engine to shut down.  One moment we’re rough-riding high seas — the next we’d slowed to a hum, with waves slapping our boat silly.

Wasting no time, the captain turned the boat around.  With a nervous smile, our nature guide delivered the bad news:  We were limping back to port with one good engine.  He was sure the operator would ‘comp’ us for our trouble.  But as it turned out, there was no way to compensate the loss for those leaving Vancouver tomorrow.  Like us.  So we took our credit and went back to the hotel.  To regroup.

Our regrouping  involved eating our picnic lunch inside our nice hotel room, going out for a quick walk and coming back for nice nap in the best bed I’ve had since leaving home.  Then we went out for dinner at a nice restaurant and walked around some more and now I’m here.

From what I can tell about Vancouver, it’s a nice place, a very livable city, full of apartments and young beautiful people who wear sandals and shorts in 68 degree weather.   Being a young city, most downtown living spaces are skyscrapers, reminding me in some odd way, of those on The Jetsons. I was glad to see a few old survivors mixed in, which kept my eyes grounded and alert.

But as nice as Vancouver is, I’m content with the way I spent my afternoon.  No tally-ho touring today.  Just a lowly ho-hum nap which proved good rest for the right knee I injured on Day Two of our vacation — when I forgot I was old rather than young — out-of-shape rather than in — and tally-hoed up a vertical hill that was mankind’s earliest form of skyscraper.

Tomorrow, it will be me limping to my home port on one good knee.

North to Denali

23 Monday Aug 2010

Posted by Janell in Far Away Places, Life at Home

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Aging, Alaska, Everyday Life, Travel

My husband and I are friendly types, though not overtly so.  We smile when smiled upon.  We do our part in picking up a dangling comment on the weather whenever a stranger volleys one in our direction.  We graciously respond to questions about the place we call home.  But  never do we initiate contact – especially when on vacation.

We don’t travel to strike up temporary friendships with fellow travelers.  People, like my husband — who still works full-time — travel to get away, to enjoy a little down-time.  So we’ve never felt a need to converse with strangers, maybe because from where we come from, strangers want to stay that way.  But if today’s train ride into Denali Park is anything to go on, our “not-overtly-friendly” years may be drawing to a close.

This is a big year in our married life since we both turn 55.  Alaska is our ‘bon voyage’ into what we hope will become our golden travel years.  But today taught me I’ve got to ‘up’ my game if I want to make it on the senior travel circuit.   Fifteen minutes out of the train station, as my husband and I were quietly studying our Alaska Rail travel brochures, I heard a woman with a Texas drawl come up the aisle visiting with the mostly senior crowd.  When she reached our row, she began talking with the couple sitting across from us.  She squealed upon learning they too were from Texas.

“Whereabouts in Texas?”
“Crawford.  You know, where President Bush has his ranch.”
“Do you know him?”
“No.  These days we don’t even know when he’s at the ranch.  No helicopters, you know.”

From there, the conversation took off.  I tried not to eavesdrop, but when I heard they came from Texas, I got interested in spite of myself.  And when I heard the lady from Crawford tell her new found friend that her husband once worked for Dow Chemical in Freeport, I found myself blurting out, “My husband does too.”

My faux pas broke their momentum a little.  But it wasn’t any time before they were back on track.  Until the woman sitting mentioned she was a retired CPA … and of course, I butted in again.  “I’m a CPA too.”

“Where did you work?
“Well, I worked at Arthur Andersen for a number of years, but I ended up at Intermedics when I moved to Texas.”
“You are not going to believe this….but I interviewed at Arthur Andersen too.  But when I graduated in 1962, Arthur Andersen hired only men.  They apologized to me, but that’s just how it was back then.  I understood.”

Well, from there, our conversation took off.  We talked about everything:  Stock investments…surgeries….religion.

There’s really not a long story short when traveling in senior circles.  Preliminaries like the weather and exchanging hometowns are merely appetizers to the main course, where nothing about one’s life is considered sacred.  Who know what heights we’ll reach if we reconnect in a couple of days – would you believe we’re taking the same cruise?

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