
Before -- bereft of gardens

Digging it

Getting There
08 Thursday Oct 2009
Posted in Life at Home

Before -- bereft of gardens

Digging it

Getting There
06 Tuesday Oct 2009
Posted in In the Garden, Prayer, Soul Care, The Great Outdoors
The days are slipping through my fingers just as leaves are slipping from the trees.
The Magnolia in the back yard is making a terrible mess right now; its yellow nitrogen-deprived leaves are dropping like flies. As I reach down to pick up the leaf litter scattered across the yard, I notice houseflies resting on the leaf’s shiny surface. I don’t think I’ve ever seen so many houseflies, even at a summer picnic. What do they know that we don’t? Perhaps their presence is a harbinger of winter’s too early arrival.
My week is slipping away, with a piece of my day allotted here and there. I am sad that I’ve no signficant blocks of time to devote to gardening and I’m in a mad rush to get my gardens put to bed and the duplex gardens next door completed before winter descends. Like the piles of leaves and army of flies, I also sense that a winter freeze is just around the corner. And this makes me grieve the shortness of autumn.
Tomorrow I’ll attend my graduation ceremonies at the Oklahoma County Extension office, where I will officially be certified as a master gardener. Like a true gardener, I joked with one of my fellow graduates that I’d rather be in the gardens than at the ceremony; yet, knowing the day is as much about our faithful trainers as it is about us who are graduating, I will go to eat, drink and be merry. Then afterwards, I’ll rush back to the gardens for the afternoon. If all goes well, all purchased plants will be installed; and with decent weather, the duplex gardens will be finished by week-end.
Another fly in the ointment to make my week so choppy is the spiritual writing I’ve been squeezing in to the open cracks of my day. After three months out of the saddle, I’ve picked up the loose threads of this curriculum and Thursday night I’ll lead a small group of faithful women in the practice of centering prayer. That I will be offering this lesson on centering prayer in a week where I am pulled in so many directions merely shows that God does have a great sense of humor.
But as I write, I sense a rightness and order in my world, even in winters that come too early and in graduations that mark a beginning of gardening knowledge rather than an ending and in teaching a lesson in centering prayer when I feel so off-center.
To God be the glory in all my days, especially when I slip off-center stage and reveal my broken humanity.
04 Sunday Oct 2009
Posted in Life at Home
The story begins when girl meets boy on a blind date. Not so impressed, the girl decides she will not go out with the boy again. So she refuses his invitation when he calls for another date. But when the boy keeps on calling, she begins to feel sorry for him. So she finally gives in and accepts the boy’s invitation for a second date. And then later, for who knows what reasons he asked and she responded, they went ahead and got married.
This public story of how my parents came to be married makes me wonder about the underlying personal stories I do not know. Unlike my Aunt Jo and Uncle Bob, I do not believe my parents were a love match. For fifty-two years, they treated each other more like business partners than lovers. And I don’t think they dated very long. Because even basic facts like my father’s age were not shared until later. My mother learned that my father was four years her senior when he provided his date of birth for my birth certificate. It wasn’t that Dad was hiding the fact; Mother had just assumed that Dad was a year older than her since he had graduated high school a year ahead of her. Since Mom thought she knew, she’d hadn’t bothered to ask. And only when it was clear she didn’t know did Dad bother to set the facts straight.
I only saw my parents kiss one time. And that was at my request, some Christmas Eve afternoon, almost fifty years ago. So if is wasn’t for love, why did my parents marry? Was Dad looking for a mother figure? Did he hunger for the stability of a real home? Did Mom marry Dad on the rebound? Or did Mom marry Dad because it was time to marry rather than because she’d found Mr. Right?
But even without romance, my parents stayed married. Like many others of their marital vintage, they stayed married because they said they would.