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The Prodigal

13 Friday Mar 2009

Posted by Janell in Life at Home, Soul Care

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If Mom were alive, she’d be cooking something special to welcome Jon home.  And Christi would be cleaning the house and doing whatever needed done.    

My brother and I were treated to many such homecoming meals.   Unlike Christi, we’d left home to seek our fortunes.  Though we soon learned life wasn’t a dream — Jon and I lost far more than we ever found.   I would have been in bankruptcy or foreclosure in 1983 were in not for my parents.  And I wasn’t unique in receiving their help.  I saw it over and over.  Like a broken record stuck in a groove, they reached out with open arms to embrace brokenness.  Helping a needy loved one was just what my parents did.  And it was always Mom leading the charge.              

Mom often said we could do whatever we set our minds to do.  She said it so often, I think we all believed her.  I know she did.  She never stopped believing in us.  No matter what wrong we’d committed, we knew we could always go home.  And we knew we’d be welcomed back with love and without judgment.

Mom had a bigger-than-life personality.  When she wasn’t around, people felt her absence.  And when she was, she went out of her way to make others feel special.  “Oh…it’s no big deal,” she’d say.  To her, ‘no big deal’ was just her everyday love expressing itself.  

Cooking was one way Mom loved others sacrificially.  She hated to cook.  But she did it– bereavement meals, birthday meals, every night supper meals, homecoming meals, those favorite desserts that were always around when we were — Jon’s banana pudding; my coconut cream pie.    

I got my prodigal gene from Mom.  I never saw this until a former pastor taught me a broader meaning for the word.  Mom was prodigal because she was ‘recklessly extravagant’ and because she gave ‘lavishly or foolishly.”  In these ways, Mom could out-prodigal my brother or me hands down…and hands out.  She’d give her money away with one hand and her love away with the other.  Both lavishly.  Both without thought of personal cost.   She died with few worldly possessions.  But remnants of Mom’s lavish love giveaways survive.  

Because even now, I am inspired to express love in a way that honors Mom’s memory.   Today its been me in the kitchen making something special for Jon’s homecoming meal.  And tomorrow, it will be me making some banana pudding. 

Mom’s love survives in Christ much more.  Even now, she prepares the house to receive guests — family gathered in Mom’s place who themselves represent bits and pieces of Mom’s love.    

Like a broken record echoing out of eternity, ancient words of a prodigal love song whisper into my ear–I’m reminded we’ve good reason to rejoice and celebrate–  “because this brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found.”

On writing

09 Monday Mar 2009

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I just finished Stephen King’s book On Writing. 

 

This part memoir– part writing advice book was inspiring, but for one scary thought that made me wonder if I’d wandered into one of King’s horror stories: 

 

 “…while it is impossible to make a competent writer out of a bad writer, and while it is equally impossible to make a great writer out of a good one, it is possible, with lots of hard work, dedication, and timely help, to make a good writer out of a merely competent one.” 

 

With brutal honesty, King stripped me of all false hopes.  But I am left with one true hope that I pray in Gregorian-like chant:  Don’t let me be a bad writer, don’t let me be a bad writer, don’t let me be a bad writer….    

 

The book reads quick as King intended.  Though some thoughts are not quick to let go.           

 

Writing with blinds down and door closed for example.  I’d much rather look out a window.  But maybe shut blinds will keep my mind from wandering away…

 

Writers need a dedicated desk, humbly shoved into a corner.  I’ve no more harbored guilt over that recent layaway purchase – that lovely old mustard colored table…soon-to-be writing desk of mine.

 

Writing practice is invaluable.  But it should not seem like practice.  Time stands still when I write.  And when I’m not, I’m drawn to it.  I remember well how I dreaded piano practice as a child.  When forced to sit in front of the ivory keys, I goofed off until my jail sentence was over.  No way writing practice is like piano practice.    

           

No matter what, tell the truth always.  This is why I write.  Writing helps me to discover truth and it keeps me real.  I’ve learned words must speak truth.  Half-truths and lies simply do not hold together, nor lie down in a well-behaved line of words. 

 

Writing is merely transcribing what you see or hear.  My best writing– the words that breathe and come alive on paper–are not my words at all.  They seem to come out of nowhere.  King calls this ‘nowhere’ his muse.  I prefer to credit God.  I hope he or she doesn’t mind.  I liken transcribing to the way Mozart composed.  He heard the music first – only then did he write.  Mozart was great at taking dictation. 

 

“Writing isn’t about making money, getting famous….  In the end, it’s about enriching the lives of those who will read your work and enriching your own life, as well.”  Sounds like King’s benediction to me.   To which I’ll say amen.   

 

But here’s my own benediction.  I bought On Writing for my son Kyle to respond to a birthday gift he’d given me two years before.   That day, Kyle asked me to name my dream – to speak it aloud.  Throwing caution to the wind, I did.  And rather than laughing, he believed.  Then he searched for his trusty list of twenty writing tips he practiced himself and gave them to me.  The gift of On Writing to Kyle was my clumsy poetic way of saying — I believe in dreams.  And I believe in Kyle.  And I believe in Kyle’s dreams on writing.

Mini-Easter

08 Sunday Mar 2009

Posted by Janell in In the Garden, Life at Home, Soul Care

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I love how every Sunday is a mini-Easter — a feast day set aside to celebrate the resurrection of Christ — and that the six Sundays during Lent are no exception. 

The season of Lent is more meaningful if I make a sacrifice.  So this year I decided to give up breakfast, easily my favorite meal.  This means I fast until lunch six days of the week.  And on Sundays, I feast with the return of breakfast.  Today I broke my fast twice.  I ate pancakes with my husband, then had a cup of coffee with Lara while she enjoyed her own short stack of cakes. 

While she was eating, I enjoyed hearing Lara talk about her new life in OKC.  Oh, she’s embracing it all with joy.  Every brand spanking new inch of it.  New job.  New home.  New friends to make.  She’s a special gal, this second-string daughter of mine.   Can’t wait for my first-string  ‘kids’ to meet her.

After Lara left, I worked in the garden with my husband.  Three short hours later, our front yard has been transformed into quite the looker.  With lawn mowed, weeds pulled, rose bushes trimmed and many, many Lirope now sporting a fresh ‘haircut’, it looks like spring outside.  Down on my knees, I could see all the new life bursting forth — baby mums, flower buds on my Spirea, green shoots of Lirope peeking through the dirt.  Is there any color lovelier than spring green? 

We ended the day cheering on the Thunder, as our players racked up another victory.  Talk about new life!  Our team has won 7 of their last 10 home games — and this one without their big stars.  Of course they remain last in their division.  But even so, this team looks different from the one I first watched in November.  The recent trades and the experience gained by our young players is starting to pay-off. 

My entire day was like watching some lovely mini-Easter parade — as I observed the new life in Lara, my garden and the Thunder.  I’m lucky to have snagged a seat so close to the action.  Because it let the joy of new life bump smack up against me.   It didn’t hurt one bit. 

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