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Name Calling

31 Tuesday Mar 2009

Posted by Janell in Far Away Places, Life at Home, Soul Care

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What’s in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”

                                    –Shakespeare

 

I just spoke with a nice man named Chris at St. Francis of the Woods.  He took time to tell me about the retreat center and to offer me driving directions.  And then, ten minutes into our call, he surprised me by remembering my name.

 

How often do people actually take in your name when you try to give it?  I confess I’m not as good as Chris.  My crime is not so much forgetting a name–though I do this too—it’s more about not paying attention from the first.  After  introduced to someone by name, we’ll talk.  And then after a bit, I’ll say, “Now tell me your name again.” 

 

I look forward to meeting this place and this man, because it will grant me a better sense of each.  Their names will become weighted by personal experience so that they are not so easy to fly off the top of my head.  And as I write this, I see that it’s been this way since time began, because in a biblical sense, to know a person’s name is to know something about their character; and to go a step further…. to really know a person demands an everyday intimacy.

 

While there is a distinction between ‘knowing about’ and ‘knowing’, I wonder if these haven’t become homogenized.  For me, to say I know about something or someone can imply a whole range of knowledge: It may be a skimming of the surface – the barest of facts – or it can be deep layers of understanding that comes from digging down and getting my hands dirty.  Or, it can fall somewhere in between. 

 

But there is a single word in a single verse from the Gospel of Matthew that has marked a line in the sand for me on what it means ‘to know’. 

 

“Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:  And knew her not till she had brought forth her firstborn son… 

 

True ‘knowing’ transcends ‘knowing about’ when we decide to get naked with one another.  We hold nothing in reserve.  We bare our souls and then our bodies.  To do it in reverse may be an intention to never know.  It may mean something someday… or maybe nothing at all.     

 

But call the name of one you tuly know and see what it means.  Notice what rises to the surface.  Maybe it’s their wicked sense of humor, or the way they can read your unspoken thoughts, or maybe it’s the way they wear their pajamas all day on Sunday without apology.  Names change.  They may even soften into a nickname with familiarity.  But the deep down core of a person, once you get under the masks and the props –all the stuff that makes them a person– rarely if ever changes.     

 

I think this is sort of what Shakespeare had in mind, when he wrote these words for Juliet to speak to Romeo:  “That which we call a rose by any other name would smell just as sweet.”

A Humble Triumph

29 Sunday Mar 2009

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“If we were humble, nothing would change us—

neither praise nor discouragement.

If someone were to criticize us, we would not feel discouraged.

If someone were to praise us, we also would not feel proud.”

                                                         –Mother Teresa

 

My prayer repetitions never lead to repeating thoughts.  As I again prayed the Scriptures of Jesus entering Jerusalem on a donkey, I recalled the Roman triumphs I had read of in Colleen McCullough’s historical novels of ancient Rome – The First Man of Rome, The Grass Crown, and so on.  In a glossary contained in The Grass Crown, Ms. McCullough writes,

 

“The greatest of days for the successful general was the day upon which he triumphed.  ….Only the Senate could sanction it, and sometimes—though not often—unjustifiably withheld it.  The triumph itself was a most imposing parade consisting of musicians, dancers, wagons filled with spoils, floats depicting scenes from the campaign, the Senate in procession, prisoners and liberated Romans, and the army.  The parade began [outside the city] and followed a prescribed route thereafter…  It terminated on the Capitol at the foot of the steps of the temple…  The triumphing general and his lectors went into the temple and offered the god their laurels of victory, after which a triumphal feast was held….”

 

The entry into Jerusalem is a humble rendition of the glorious Roman triumph of New Testament times.  But the important features are there: the prescribed parade route, beginning outside the city and ending at the temple; a parade of people preceding and following Jesus, who is the successful general at the end of his military campaign.  The feast (the Last Supper) and sacrifice (the death of Jesus) would follow a few days later. 

 

However no Roman general would have stood for the insulting triumph that honored Jesus.  The general, worshiped by the entire city of Rome, always rode in a horse-drawn glittering chariot; he would not be seen near a humble donkey.  The parade of fisherman and others touched by Jesus’ miracles were not even close to the who’s who of Rome that attended triumphs to see and be seen.  Any Roman who might have seen this Jesus parade would merely have slapped their knees and laughed at this parody of a triumph. 

 

Not laughing that day were the Jewish leaders lining the parade route and waiting in the temple.  They saw the crowd of Jews who turned out to honor Jesus as king, the son of David, and they wanted the cheers of Hosanna to stop even if it meant killing Jesus. 

 

This triumph was a curious marriage of Roman and Jewish traditions, yet one bearing Jesus’ unique mark of humility.  As King of the Jews, he reached back to fulfill the symbolic imagery of Old Testament messianic prophesies; and as the future religious king of the Roman Empire, he embraced the symbolic imagery of a Roman tribute. He used sign language that both Jews and Gentiles could one day understand.   

 

Yet Jesus seemed so matter-of-fact about people worshiping him,singing their Hosannas, while Pharisees stood nearby criticizing him.  He was not swayed by either adulation or criticism, as he rode slowly and steadily toward the temple on a borrowed donkey colt. 

 

In the truest sense, it was a triumph over pride. 

Ramblin’ Gamblin’ Man

27 Friday Mar 2009

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“God doesn’t play dice with the universe”

                             –Albert Einstein

 

In this morning’s contemplative prayer, I was invited to be with Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane.  It was only forty minutes, but time grew so heavy it seemed to stand still, just like when I sat near my dying mother’s bedside.

 

But today I was keeping a dying Jesus company, not with words but merely my presence.  In the shared solitude, I would find my mind wandering to far away places; but when I came to my senses, I simply turned around and retraced my steps back to that dark garden.      

 

I imagine Jesus was retracing some of his own steps that night in Gethsemane.  Irreverent as it may sound, the thought of an old Bob Seger song—Ramblin’ Gamblin’ Man—came to mind when I thought about Jesus’ ministry, more for its title than its lyrics.  Jesus spent three years rambling around King Herod’s kingdom gambling his very life that people would be ready to hear some good news.  Many were, but not the powers-that-be who were calling the shots.  

 

Perhaps I’m preoccupied with gambling, having just witnessed first hand the devil-may-care spirit of Las Vegas gamblers.  I cannot see Jesus as recklessly unaware of his odds, especially with a long trail of dead prophets preceding him.  But I also do not believe Jesus began his ministry thinking death a foregone conclusion.   Death became inevitable only as his miracles and assertions about his own identity grew more bold and threatening to the earthly kingdoms built and ruled by Jewish leaders.   

 

Some gamblers act like they don’t mind losing.  They keep their bets manageable or when they don’t, they rationalize their losses as the cost of entertainment or by spending no more than a preset limit.  But the more words they use, the less I believe them.  Too many words reveal a weak hand.      

 

By contrast, Jesus was very disturbed by his gambling losses and didn’t care who knew it.  The Gospels report of his blood-sweating agony in the garden, as he prayed over life and death.  He began his prayers that night with a hopeful ‘no’ to death.  By the end of his second and third prayers, after he had laid all his cards on the table, he responded to God with a shaky ‘yes’, whispering, “Thy will be done.”  On the brink of apparent defeat, Jesus didn’t waste words rationalizing.  He simply let his ‘yes’ be ‘yes’ and his ‘no’ be ‘no’.  Then turned it all over to God.

 

Turning ‘it’ all over to God should sound like a safe bet.  But it’s done so rarely, I think God is regarded as the biggest gamble of them all.  It seems to be a bit easier to turn ‘it’ over when we’ve run out of all other options, when there’s nothing left for us to lose.  But for Jesus, during this night of prayer in the garden, it clearly wasn’t easy.  And this tells me he folded by choice.         

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